My wife is hiding a secret from me before we're married. how do I findout what it is?? I don't know any of her close friends.
2006-11-10 14:26:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask her what the secret is that she is hiding, if she refuses to tell you. tell her that you do not want to go into the marriage with secrets. But beware.... some secrets are better left unsaid. Be supportive of her. and if you love her enough to marry her there shouldn't be any reason that what ever she tells you, would change that love. tell her a secret that you wouldn't tell a soul, maybe by giving a little tit for tat might help. assure her that you will still marry her and nothing she could say will keep you from loving her, if she does tell you, don't bring it up again unless she wants to talk about it. Its probably something silly that she feels is horrible and isn't that big of a deal.
2006-11-10 15:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a concept called "boundaries." Your wife has set one. The more you love her and respect her boundary, the closer she will come to possibly one day sharing it. If you hassle her now w/o the "secret" she can only fear how much worse you would do if you learned.
Remember - "For better or worse"?
2006-11-10 22:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is ready she will tell you her secret, but I don't understand how she could of married you when keeping a secret. You shouldn't keep secrets from the people you love.
2006-11-10 22:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to zaba search and you can get all info on your wife before you were married. Be careful though it maybe something you don't want to know.
2006-11-10 22:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no wedding until she fesses up.
Even if it was a "good" secret, better to not go in wondering.
2006-11-10 22:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really worried about this secret? And if you are I would just ask her about it other than that let it go.
2006-11-10 23:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. Make sure you really want to know though. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.
2006-11-10 22:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act like u already know and she will inevitably spill the beans to u
2006-11-10 22:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will tell u one day, one day when she feels truly safe and secure with u. sometimes it may be something we would be happier not knowing.
2006-11-10 22:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Operative term is before.
Why does it matter now?
2006-11-10 22:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋