i want to know if the paperwork of my divorce will catch up to the paperwork of me getting married even if im doing each thing in a different state. i want to marry this new person and i told him i was never married before. i thought the divorce would go through but now its taking forever and my new love is eager to marry me. and i keep putting him off. so can i get married while my divorce paperwork is going through and not get arrested on sight?
2006-11-10 14:26:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WAIT!
You are not legally able to marry again until the divorce IS FINAL.
Depending on where you live, your divorce may not be final until six months after the papers are finalized.
And for heavens's sake, diving into another marriage before the ink is litterally dry on your divorce papers is DANGEROUS.
Ever hear of REBOUND? Wait several YEARS before dating, let alone marrying again.
Oh, and you've even LIED to this new guy. Starting a new relationship based on a lie is really, really stupid.
Where is Dr. Laura when you, and I mean YOU need her to slap some reality across your face!
2006-11-10 14:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No you can not get married. But you are starting off this new marriage in a lie and that is not a smart idea. If he were to ever find out after the marriage he would never trust you again. Trust is a big part of a happy marriage. I would sit him down and tell him you were embarrassed to tell him that you were previously married at first because you felt like a disappointment. Tell him that when things started getting serious you did not know what to do and if he loves you truly then everything will work out ok.
2006-11-10 14:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The divorce paper work must be finished and signed.
Or you will #1 not be legally married #2 commit pyligomy which you will have to deal with because it is against the law.
What is the hurry? Take this time of waiting and be sure this new man in your life is waht you really need. He just might be another troubled relationship.
2006-11-10 14:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your finance is just as dishonest as you. If I found out the person I was marrying was in the middle of a divorce, I would end the relationship. Trust is paramount. Something that you are apparently oblivious to, given your only concern is not getting caught. Oh, and one more thing....you should probably skip the procreation thing.
2006-11-10 14:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you cannot marry while divorcing.
No you should not marry while divorcing. Any divorce requires a certain amount of emotional re-adjustment. Taking that into a marriage w/ an unsuspecting guy does not suggest true love.
2006-11-10 14:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
1) You lie to your new interest.
2) You want to marry him while still legally married.
3) You would be committing Adultery AND Bigamy!
3 strikes and you are OUT! Save the new guy the grief of dealing with this later. Come clean NOW, and let him out if he wishes. If he is willing to continue the relationship, at least he is going in with full information once you confess.
2006-11-10 15:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way to start a new relationship off on the right foot.. upfront and honest all the way. Why in the world would you lie to your new fiance?
And no... you cannot legally enter into another marriage until your first one is completely and legally dissolved. Oh, and by the way... you will have to fill out paperwork to apply for your marriage license, and they'll probably ask you if it is your first marriage. Word of advice... don't lie.
2006-11-10 14:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by Suzuki_Mouse 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off your an idiot for telling him that you were never married before and I think that you need to wait till the divorce is completely final.
2006-11-10 15:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, I am in the same situation you are in and it sucks. We just have to buy our time and wait it out. I have been waiting for a year. Just try to move on the best you can and be happy. Slowly we will get what we want, but the divorce wheel sometimes turns slow.
2006-11-10 14:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by shellygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry this new man, you will become a bigamist.You can be prosecuted for this. You must tell your new man you were married, before he finds out.Starting a new marriage, with such a huge deceit, is starting out on the wrong foot.
2006-11-10 14:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Pat C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋