I asked this earlier but someone did not like the way I worded it. Apparently Dork is a vulgar word so I will not use it when talking about my friend. So sorry to those I offended. I would just like to know why he constantly goes for woman that do not respect him. They treat him like a doormat. I hope that word is allowed. The last one physically attacked him and constantly manipulates him. He married her. Do you think he has low self esteem? Why else would he put himself through such drama?
2006-11-10 14:20:46 · 13 answers · asked by Jules 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is looking at the wrong types of women, because he doesn't have any self worth, and they pick up on that and know that they can get away with treating him that way. he settles for less than he deserves, because he is too in a hurry to find someone. he looks in all the wrong places, probroly under rocks, and places like that. he doesn't get to know them well enough, and doesn't ask questions, he isn't able to discern the good from the bad, and allows others to disrespect him, and fails to confront them, because he fears being abandoned. he is willing to take the worst just to have someone to love, and he isn't really sticking up for himself.
2006-11-10 14:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I obviously don't know him, so it's hard for me to say; although, it does sound like he may think in the back of his mind that disrespectful women is what he deserves. Possibly he grew up with a mother that was the same way towards his father, therefore he thinks that's how a relationship is supposed to be. Or, it could also be that he's just into the "bad girl" persona & that's what he likes in a woman. There are really a lot of answers to this question & I don't know if any of these helped, but I think for you to find the true answer you should ask your friend in a non-attacking way. He may not even realize that there could be better for him!!! Good luck with everything ;-)
2006-11-10 22:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely his mother or another woman prominent in his life was very controlling.He developed an understanding of how women treat men from this experience. Whether he means to or not, he finds women that treat him that same way.
I know how this works because I did the same thing until I met my wife. My step-mother abused me emotionally for twenty years. I then dated women who were controlling and manipulative.
When I met my wife, I thought that she was not my type. I realized that my type was what was wrong, not this woman. I married her and I am so glad that I did.
Your friend is not a dork nor is he a doormat, but he unconsciously looks for women who will treat him that way.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-10 22:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has low self-esteem and thinks he deserves to be treated badly. He may need to see a counselor or therapist. Does he dress like a dork? Maybe you can take him shopping and get him some clothes that look good on him. A good haircut would help, too. He needs to treat himself well if he wants good treatment from others.
2006-11-10 22:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem like he has low self-esteem. Some people are introverted, and they see an extrovert as one whom they admire and lets them speak for them. He may feel inadequate for other types of women. His mother may have been very dominate. There are a lot of reasons why those type attract him. If he complains about it himself, he should re-evaluate his idea of the characteristics he likes in a woman. If he isn't complaining, then maybe he is comfortable in that type of relationship.
2006-11-10 22:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably low self esteem. Either that or his parents modeled that sort of relationship while he was young so he doesn't know what a healthy relationship should be.
2006-11-10 22:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by googie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seeks out those kind of characteristics unconciously because that is probably the "norm" for him. He grew up around those negative characteristics, and that's probably why he seeks woman who don't respect him.
2006-11-10 22:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i think some ppl r atracted to ppl that treated them bad he might get with a good woman and and think she is a waste of his time even though she is great for him mabay something in his childhood
2006-11-10 22:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by mydaughters_mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out his mother. How did she treat him while he was growing up? My mother-inlaw treated her sons like crap and now her one son dates girls that are exactly like her. My hubby used to be like his brother till he met me. He sometimes still gets angry when I am brutally honest with him since I guess he subconsciously still wants met to treat him like his mother treated his father.
2006-11-10 22:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These women will only do what your friend lets them get away with. He has a choice, you know.
2006-11-10 22:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋