Why do people.....?

Question

.....have problems/issues with people that are bi/gay? I saw a video on TV where this gay guy was watering his lawn, then his neighbor beat the sh*t out of him just because he was gay. Not everyone loves the opposite sex. Hey, I don't even know what I am.

Answer 1

Too many people can't see other people as simply "human". They have to see race, relgion, sexual orientation... the things that separate us rather than unite us.

This is generally the result of the way they were raised. Some religions see it as evil to be gay. I was brought up in such a religion and was also given a lot of racist ideas, but had the brains to think for myself and put away all the stereotyping... it does none of us any good.

It's sad that the ONLY race can't be the HUMAN race, but I'm 45 and have seen a lot of progress in my lifetime, so there is hope!

Answer 2

I suspect that part of the hostility is that you often can't tell whether someone is bi or gay merely by looking at them or talking with them. As a result, some people become very nervous and downright paranoid. There were some very effective stories in EC magazines in the 50's that used someone being Jewish or having black blood as a trigger point for hostility.

Another part is being unsure how to handle being approached by someone of the same sex who finds them attractive. This can lead to the person not wanting to deal with it because they're afraid of what their own reactions may be. Heavens forbid that they may actually feel attracted to someone of the same sex.

There have been several statements over the years that some of the most virulent opponents of whatever have become that way because, deep down, they are attracted to that whatever but can't/won't admit it to themselves. Thus they try to drive it away so they won't have to deal with the situation.

Answer 3

Well, I don't know that people understand the bi/gay world. When I was growing up, it was taboo to be gay and they were in the "closet" so to speak. I grew up in San Francisco and the first sighting of a gay man was when I was at my aunts and this guy was "swishing" and my cousins came back to tell my parents the story of this guy walking like a woman. Everyone poked fun and discussed how disgusting being gay was. I think someone might even have mentioned something about it being a sin. So I grew up thinking that being gay was a sin AND no one in the family would approve.

Recently, my son came out of the closet. Was I shocked? Yes. Everyone that I later divulged the story to (to get their reaction) said they already knew he was. Was I shocked? I was in total denial (I still am). So I think many people do not know how to respond to gay people because they don't know them. It is "fear" and not the "I might get AIDS fear" - its the kind of fear when you don't know this person and you're not sure how you should react to them, especially when all your life you've been told that being gay is wrong.

So people just need to be educated. And people that are gay should be patient and accepting. If someone does not accept us as we are, we should not fault them. That's just life. Sometimes it takes us awhile to understand and accept that others are different....kind of like not knowing those of another culture.

Answer 4

I saw that video as well a few years back.

Ignorance and hatred comes to mind when talking about these people. They have no love for themselves, so you have to think why would they love anything else?

Unfortunately these people are everywhere and express hatred on innocent people that they see as the "opposite" in all walks of life.

All you can do is be better than them and not support that kind of behavior.

Answer 5

Well, I am bi, and mostly in the closet, because my father hates gays with a burning passion. It is partly because he thinks God hates gays, and partly because he thinks that the Bible says to execute anyone who is gay. (He's a preacher.) I have always been bi, but only started to accept it a couple years ago, because I had believed that it was a mortal sin to be gay. I think that is the biggest reason that people think they should hate/feel sorry for gay/bi/lesbian/transgendered people.

Answer 6

People are just stupid and close-minded. They fear what they don't understand and have a desparate need to feel superior to others. Throughout history, people persecute and hurt others because they are different. Jews, Catholics, Christians (yes the same folks who are doing the persecuting now in the name of a loving God), African Americans, peasants, French, Native Americans and now gays.

Answer 7

That is modern life im afraid to say, i guess its a pecking order thing, first it was the blacks, now its us gays.....