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I'm dating a lady (33) with Lupus. She's shy when asked about it and does not make it like it's a big deal so I don't pry. I did look it up but is all gibberish and I don't understand what she is going through. Last time we went out (dancing etc..) I did'nt hear from her for 3 days because she was sick. What can I do to comfort or help her? Or even make it easier for her to talk about it to me?

2006-11-10 14:12:52 · 5 answers · asked by sanman2234 2 in Health Women's Health

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Looking for answers is a great way to help her. Activities like dancing, walking through the mall, travel, etc. can really take its toll on someone with lupus. It is a chronic disease and your girlfriend is probably a lot like me....and doesn't want to risk losing a great guy by telling them how difficult life can be living with Lupus.

Dealing with lupus is a personal thing. Don't push the issue but be understanding if she asks for alone time.
Some things that really help me are:

Drop her off close to the place you are going instead of making her walk extra distance.

Tell her to let you know when she is too tired and needs to rest or let her sleep in on the weekends.

These are two things my ex really didn't understand. He didn't have patience for my needs.

She is lucky to have someone who is willing to take the time to learn.

2006-11-12 12:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by lolabellaquin 4 · 0 0

sometimes its hard for people to tell them about it. i have lupus and the best thing is to try and be there for her the best you can be. its hard. depending on the kind of lupus she has it can vary on whats going on with her. basically it mimics other diseases and its an auto amune disease. for me- i have rheumatoid arthritis, i had a stroke at the age of 17, kidney disease and a blood disorder. you can get lupus flare ups which will cause a rash and make you very sick. you also get lupus headaches which are just awful. you get tired and sore. the list can go on forever!!! so sometimes when i tell people what is wrong with me i feel like im complaing of what i have and i dont know maybe she feels the same way. there is a good book the lupus book : guide for patients and their families by daniel j wallace

2006-11-10 14:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by kittyspa 1 · 1 0

Lupus is a chronic, autoimmune disease which, in plain english, means that the body's own immune system is attacking different body parts and the disease will always be there and there is no cure. Lupus tends to go in cycles with periods of illness followed by periods of wellness. these are often unpredicatable and irratic. some things, such as stress, may bring about a period of illness. if she is uncomfortable talking about her illness, I wouldn't push the issue. it is personal and difficult to deal with. i'm sure, when she is comfortable enough to discuss it, she will.

2006-11-10 14:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Rather good if it is as high as you say it is. Lupus can be transmitted genetically, so go get her to a doctor soon. Like most diseases, it's best if you get treated early.

2016-05-22 04:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Get her a bottle of monavie juice and have her take 2 ounces twice daily. It is an all natural product and has been very helpful for many people who suffer from lupus and other autoimmune diseases. Info on request.

2006-11-10 14:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Roy 6 · 0 0

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