He has lived with his Dad for 2 yrs. I don't do football and play playstation games. I am 45 and teach school. His sisters and I can shop....but I don't know what to converse with him about?
Any ideas somebody? When he was little it was so easy. Now he is into his truck, his friends, and his music. He says I repeat myself and he seems bored with me. It kinda hurts my feelings. He is a little on the quiet side anyway. Once in a while he will turn into a chatterbox and rattle for a long time. But those days are few and very far between. How can I connect with him? I feel like I am losing a son.
2006-11-10 13:54:22 · 6 answers · asked by lucy p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Teenage boys go through a quiet phase in high school and they also often during this phase hate to be touched. Try not to take it too personally. My boys pulled out of the phase just fine.
Ask him questions, then listen.He has a truck. Ask him what is the favorite part of having a truck? Ask him if he is able to fix things himself?
Are there any TV programs that he likes to watch that you can watch with him and make comments on?
If you think he has any depth of character ask him questions like......what does he think about this or that. You might be surprised what he thinks about.
As a mom of a boy this age, you have a very fine balancing act to to......don't be too friendly and touchie feelie, or don't seem distant and uncaring. The teens will catch you on both counts.
Maybe bring up a memory you have of something that happened when he was young. for instance........"remember the time you climbed that tree and we had to call the fire department to come and rescues you?" ha ha Ask him how it felt to be a little boy high in that tree, was he terrified or if it was no big deal to him.
My oldest is now 32 and my youngest son was 21 when he died four years ago. I was blessed with a full day of being with him a week before he passed. We got to treasure our kids because we never know how long any of us have here on earth.
If possible hug him and tell him that you love him. Don't get upset if he pulls away from you. He is a typical teenage boy. And they hate to admit it, but they do love to feel loved.
2006-11-10 14:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thirteen is simply too younger for anti-depressants. thirteen could also be a intricate age. I hate this dull "emo" label the youngsters like to throw round at the moment. Try to not use it along with your son. How have you learnt he reduce himself? Maybe it used to be an coincidence? Kids get harm at all times, why are you assuming he did it? Even if he did, he would simply be imitating any one he is aware of and/or looking to see what all of the fuss is approximately. Either method , at thirteen, you are now not going to wish to speak for your mom and dad approximately that. Don't speak approximately the slicing, as he is typically embarassed. Don't overreact both intent that would make a meaningless incident into whatever else. Just speak to him like natural. Make certain he is aware of he is adored. Don't be overdramatic. Don't overanalyze him. thirteen is a tough age. He typically has a few problems approximately his brother. If I have been thirteen and my brother wasn't round I'd think unhealthy approximately that. And if there have been violence problems that would be a few unresolved problems there too. Just supply him a few area, thirteen yr olds don't seem to be particularly into "speaking" to their mom and dad.
2016-09-01 10:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by miyasato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him questions. How's life? How's school? Are you dating anyone? How is your job going? What kind of games do you like for Playstation? Etc.
Yes, this is all about him. Take an interest in him and his life. He may brush you off and complain that you're being nosy and pushy, but it will pay off in the end.
2006-11-10 13:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with your son. You are the adult/parent here. You need to start by talking about what he likes to talk about. Ask him questions. I'll bet he has got much more interesting/important things to talk about than "shopping" and I hope you give your daughters more depth than that. Take an interest in your son or you will lose him.
2006-11-10 14:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just ask him how was your day or what did you do last night , why dont you enjoy one of his friends over so you can meet them thats a good way to find out things he is interted in. go to a movie , play ball , or just set and watch tv together. good luck
2006-11-10 14:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre not He does respond more Think of those subjects...let him talk about his friends or courses whatever and encourage him....see what he wants to do for a living...dont give up...
2006-11-10 13:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋