Do women really mean what they say?

Question

If after 10 yrs of marriage, your wife say, I hate you a lot and I don't like anything about you.. I never loved you from the day we met. What does she really mean by that? I'm totally confused !!

Answer 1

She means what she said. Find out why and work to improve things.

Answer 2

Well she must have loved/ liked you atleast a little to have begun a relationship with you lo those many years ago. But as so often happens people get caught up living their lives and forget what brought them together in the first place. Someone you have lived with for ten years may start to wear on your patience after the excitement of a new relationship has worn off.
So I would say that she may or may not auctually hate you, but the root of those feelings probably comes from years of feelings that have been hidden under the glassy surface of denial and self preservation.

Answer 3

Are you the type of guy that doesnt fight back when in an argument with your wife? If so she might be really wanting to get at you. To see if you care about the marriage. She might be really hurting a lot and might feel alone so she lashes out. You need to tell her what is up. Tell her how you feel. Yea its hard to do that sometimes but if you want to be with her another 10 years you need to open up.

Answer 4

It means she's a user and a loser. Why would she stay with someone for 10 years she "never loved" and now hates "a lot?" I wouild take her at her word and get the hell out. Why stay and take more abuse? If you stay after someone you've been married to for that long says these things then you need help as much as she does.

Answer 5

Are you just playing around or are you that out of it?

Say that you are serious. What would she have to do to tell you that you were the worse thing that ever happened to her. Hit you....kick you....knock you upside the head.

Why on earth would you think there is another meaning to this?
Take it from me she means every word of it just as she said it and no doubt more.

Sorry but this is so unbelievable I have to assume you are throwing the bull.

Answer 6

No. Women talk in code. What she probably met by all that you wrote is " I am really unhappy about myself and I don't like much about myself, I felt insecure sense the day we met" It's a cry for help actually and if you are smart you can turn this drama to your advantage.

Answer 7

She can't possibly mean that she never loved you from day 1...
No one would stay married to someone for 10 years w/o loving them!!! Sometimes anger and hurt make people say things that they don't really mean....

Answer 8

It's hard to know, but it could mean she hates you, doesn't like anything about you and never loved you from the day you and her met. Ask her, these words are so hard to decipher.

Answer 9

It's woman talk for being extremely angry and upset. Build of resentment for a long time, and you didn't notice, which makes her feel worse and angrier and more helpless. She most likely tried to talk to you, and felt like it was unproductive.
I'm still learning a lot, but John Gray has helped me a lot [Venus/Mars books]. I learned things about being a womans and a woman's needs I didn't know! [I didn't take at face value, I observed and listened.]

Answer 10

it really depends on what you did to make her mad. yes sometimes a wife will say things to her husband that she doesnt mean. and other times when anyone is mad at someone their true feelings about things are said. when shes not upset about anything that will be a good time to talk to her about the things she has said to you.