2006-11-10 13:32:38 · 21 answers · asked by Troy T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find a woman that will make you happy sexually too...Sorry there is nothing you can do if the guy is hitting it better then you, just find another..
2006-11-10 13:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your facts straight. He has not made me happy sexually. He has done nothing for me sexually. He is a friend, first and for most. Don't pin all of this on me. You were just as interested in another woman as i am in this guy. I have no control that she doesn't feel for you what you want her to. If you need to make me the bad guy in order to get through this fine, but know that by doing such you certainly will not make this work. That it is only pushing me farther away. We both did this together and have been doing it for at least the last four years. You can't undo that much damage in one week. Even as emotionally draining as this week has been I can't just turn off the pain and neglect I feel. If I do it isn't genuine!! I asked you to be patient with me,I don't feel you are giving me that. It's not my job and beyond my capabilities to re assure you everyday that things are o.k. They aren't, they are slowly getting better but we still have a long way to go. I need you to pick a position and stick with it. Too many mixed signals leave me more confused than anything else. I need you to find the man you were when we got married. That's the man i want back. The one who was content to just hold me and that was all he needed, the one who used to tease me and flirt with me. Laugh with me, stop reading into every little thing I do. I feel like I am always being picked apart, and disected. Trust me to give you things at face value. You don't have to agree with my feelings but at least give them the respect they deserve. You and the girls have always come before me,,, until now. Is it selfish, yes. I never say I want or I need. how many times have I heard those words from you? I want to work this out. love your wife.
2006-11-10 23:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your marriage is in limbo, either she married you for sex and when she started getting less she looked for it elsewhere to fill the void, or she lost her love for you and looked for it elsewhere, with sex as part of the package.
How did you treat your wife in all those then years? Surely if you treated her well like you did when you were not yet married she could not have wandered around. She could not have cheated on you.
Talk things out with her. Meet the issues head on and settle matters like adults. If you still love despite her cheating on you and your marriage, then give her and the marriage a chance. Pick up the pieces from there and start building your love and your life together anew.
If love is a big issue and no matter how hard you both tried you could not bring the sparkle into the relationship again, then cut and cut clean. File for a divorce. Living together will not bring the best in the both of you. It will only make matters worse ...
2006-11-10 14:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by madc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
After 10 years of married life your wife is getting sexual satisfaction let her be happy. You should also look for some girl friend for you but be happy and enjoy life
Dr.Mojo
2006-11-10 22:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually have some choices:
1) Stay and put up with it.
2) Stay and get your own sex partner. Maybe you guys could swing.
3) Leave and grow a backbone.
2006-11-10 13:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on it is clearly over she is not coming back to you. although i hardly think that a sex issue is a reason for her leaving you. you must have done something else to make her want to leave. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-10 14:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has this philandering of hers been going on for awhile ? Because you don't sound too upset. What I don't understand is why are you torturing yourself ? Cut your losses and move on, why care about someone who doesn't care about you ?
2006-11-10 14:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you ?Are you sure you too are not doing this? I hope she is not fed up with you and started following your foot steps. If not you should confront her and decide the future action.
2006-11-10 14:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has already done the deed, then, step aside. Doesn't sound like you are to upset about it, must've seen it coming.
If you are okay with it, then ask her what she would like to do.
2006-11-10 13:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just except it get a divorce and find someone else.
2006-11-10 14:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by mom363546 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋