I'm thirteen but my mom hasn't even told me a word about sex...nothing...except it is something that adults do. Whatver I know about sex is from health class and friends...what do I do? I don't want to bring it up though....so what do I do? Do I just sit here and let it go by? I know it is a talk I should dread, which I kind of do in a way, but shouldn't she at least tell me a little about it? What do you think is the right age to talk about it? Do you think my mom is making the right decision of letting me learn it in school and from friends? I'm just confused! I can't tell her anything, though, because she goes around and tells everybody. Is she just trying to protect me or something? What is she doing?
2006-11-10 13:31:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
honestly i can't tell you, but i'm thirteen too and my mom hasn't told me anything about it. i learned from my aunts and she doesn't even know they told me. sorry.
2006-11-10 13:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there isn't a right age to have the sex talk with your kids. I think it is something that comes up when the time is right. I think your mom is being increadibly naive to not say anything. Realistically, kids are having sex at younger ages and she needs to inform you so you make the right decisions and you know what to do. Your mom should be your confidant, she is there to protect you and she probably feels like she;s protecting you by not telling you anything. Tell her you feel you need to know about sex so you are informed when the time comes and you can make educated decisions. If there is a boyfriend in your life right now, asking your mom might not be the best thing to do. Is there a friends mom that you would feel comfortable asking or maybe an aunt or teacher?
2006-11-10 21:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I think you are at an age where you should be taught about sex. I would just get with your mom when just the two of you are alone, and ask her about sex, and what to expect. Tell her you don't understand all about it, and you would like to hear about it from her. Tell her your friends talk about it, and you would like to know about it from her, as she is your mother and that you respect her answers, more than hearing about it from school or someone else. She will probably be happy that you feel that you can confide in her. It makes for a good relationship also. Hope you get the answers that you need. God bless.
2006-11-10 22:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just ask her if you want to know. Ask her when it's just you two and you're alone. When you're asking about sex, it's time to talk about it. And since you're asking, she better start giving you some answers. Learning about sex from school is OK if it's from like health class, but she doesn't want you to learn from your friends because they might not be telling you the right info. So, in a way, she is protecting you. Or maybe she's just avoiding the whole ordeal because she's embarrassed to talk about it with you. It can be very hard to talk about this sort of thing with your child. But really, it's no big deal. BUT, if you really want to know about sex, you should ask her, OK? Good luck.
2006-11-10 21:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so tough for you. You want to ask all these questions that some mothers think are embarrassing. Have you tried taking a book home on the subject of sex and asking her if she'd like to go through it with you. She shouldn't tell anyone what you've told her. That should be private between mother and daughter!! Why don't you ask her if there's a night free that you two can spend together for some ' girly talk ' and make sure it's just the two of you??
2006-11-10 21:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Moira S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a smart girl, I think that you should bring it up to your Mother. So that the two of you can sit down and talk. Make sure you let her know you're not thinking about doing it any time soon, that everyone else has been given the sex talk and you think you should get the talk, too.
2006-11-10 21:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 13 and truly going to say that you don't know anything about it, whatever. Your probably thinks that your to young and that's not on your mom, i haven't had that talk with my mom yet but i know when my mom realizes that it's on my mind she'll come talk about it but for now I'll probably get a clap in the head for being to fast remember you still young yah maybe all your friend talk about it but you have the rest of your life to learn about those things for now just chill,and start at first base.
2006-11-10 22:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by FlAwL3ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can actually speak from my own experience and let you know the fact that you and your mom havent talked about it makes you more curious about it..
It can be a totally weird experience to talk about sex with your mom but really about only 50% of what info you get from your friends is going to be correct (because usually they don't know either).
You should be the bigger person and next time your with your mom tell her" mom i think i have questions about sex, not because im thinking about doing it but because some of my friends talk about it and I don't want to be curious. You will earn many many cool points from your mom because she will think "wow my daughter is making wise choices in life" and you will hopefully get the answers that you seriously need...
Good Luck..
2006-11-10 21:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by kaliprincess82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably she doesnt want to worry you about it. i mean you are young and you shouldnt even be thinking about sex at ur age. maybe she'll tell you, but just be patient, or maybe she's scared that you might freak out. Imean some kids hate to have "THE TALK". But let me tell you something, sex isn't a hobby or anything like that, so if your friends are doing it, you better not even be thinking about it. so don't worry about it. You're not missing anything.
2006-11-10 21:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 11 my mom warned me of women
who try to have sex with boys my age and the
ways in which they try. It was pretty explicit and
my mom always talked about sex subjects and
that is why to this day I do not have any babies
running around wondering who their dad is
because I have been with one women in my life
for 20yrs and from the teachings from my mom
I respect the fact I am not a baby maker with
kids running around without a dad.
2006-11-10 21:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are at the age that you need to know instead of hearing all of the different things from KIDS at SCHOOL and most of them WRONG why not go to the public library . There you will find answers to your questions
2006-11-10 21:44:03 · answer #11 · answered by Jack C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋