For Christmas and birthdays and things like that.
Be honest in your answer! A lot of you will be used to getting presents on certain occassions every year, but I am not. I feel jealous of my friends who get all sorts of wonderful things, and when they enquire what I got, I just smile and tell them not to ask. Is the nature of wanting things you don't need a selfish one?
2006-11-10 13:31:05 · 6 answers · asked by Link 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The thing about receiving presents is that it gives you an opportunity to view yourself as others see you, sometimes totally different than you see yourself. Sometimes a gift can steer you in a directon you never envisioned for yourself. So--if you are not in the habit of receiving gifts from others, maybe it's time to give yourself a special gift or two. It's a way of being properly selfish to reward yourself. Take a walk through a shop you don't normally go to and buy yourself something that strikes your fancy. Then, each time you look at the item at home, you'll remember the little happy moment when you gave yourself a special reward. I know a woman who buys herself diamond jewelry because she grew tired of waiting for a man in her life. It makes her happy rather than thinking about what's missing in her life.
2006-11-10 13:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Whimsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. I don't think it's bad to be selfish, I believe it is natural. I would almost go as far as to say that everything a person does is for their self. I think that most people are intelligent enough to realize that they must scratch someone else's back to get their's scratched. You wouldn't do someone a favor who would effect you negatively every time. Society works because people are smart to think about their actions and the consequences of those actions. People who steal and do other "selfish" acts just aren't smart enough to realize the long term consequences of their actions. If you steal you will eventually get caught and no one will like you, no one will scratch your back. In most cases it is easier to live the way society has set aside for you.
In your case you shouldn't worry about gifts. What good will come out of it? Life is too short to worry about presents. Good luck.
2006-11-10 13:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is only human to have these feelings. I don't think it is necessarily selfish to feel that way. Now if you were nasty with people and were always asking for things then yes, but not selfish to want. Getting presents can make someone feel important and loved. It is normal to have the feelings that you do.
2006-11-10 13:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is selfish to only want presents for yourself but it is natural to hope for a gift; like winning the lottery or walking down the street and finding true love. If we can hope and wish for others, surely we are inclined to hope and wish for ourselves from time to time. Sometimes gifts are simply the quiet moments we get to spend with ourself. "Five-star" gifts are the best.
2006-11-10 14:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by zphiv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. i'd (honestly) be really mad. it's like when i asked my friend what they wanted for christmas and the answer was "get me what i'm getting you, nothing". i was soooooo not happy hearing that one, however, it did knock one person off my christmas list-so yeah, it's okay to be selfish-i am...
2006-11-10 13:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by *MaE* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. It's much more fun to see little kids get presents. I think we get more pleasure from what we have earned for ourselves.
2006-11-10 13:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sid B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋