Its always gotta be about him him him....is he crazy? I have told him millions of times that he is being selfish and he hasn't stopped. He is selfish with the lil ones too....especially when he is eating ice cream...he won't give them any....they keep asking and he just keeps on eating...lol...its true.
So how do you make a selfish person selfless?? (is that possible)
2006-11-10 13:30:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no. what do you see in such a jerk anyway
2006-11-10 13:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If showing by example has not worked yet, start being really selfish all the time. It might grow on you though, so watch out. Also, he may still not completely get the point. So. How about talking with him again? Don't tell him to quit doing something or start doing something. Make suggestions in the form of compliments at the right times and make sure he gets plenty of comfort and love. If he is still selfish then the problem is all his. And you need help from outside source.
2006-11-10 13:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Disagree. The situation you published, isn't the situation that everybody has. I (the female) had to cajole my husband to not lay our a fortune on my ring. He spent $1000 on it. if your house is well worth $1000, i could hate to verify your homestead. We spent what shall we've adequate funds on our wedding ceremony. this is truthfully in basic terms a ceremony with a huge occasion after it, so as that's what we did. Our ceremony in basic terms lasted quarter-hour. It grew to become into exterior, with out religious connotations in any respect. Our reception grew to become into only an excuse to collect all our buddies and family contributors and have some exciting. what's so incorrect with that? no person have been given stupidly drunk or embarrassed themselves, as we invited in charge people, not frat boys. i'm desperate to not grow to be a "nagging, selfish, menopausal basket case," and that i did not marry a guy who could grow to be "a lazy, fat, drunk who's in basic terms workout to realize for the distant administration." Is that what you think of you will grow to be? the element is, if that's the way you experience approximately marriage, then you definately are good, do in no way get married, because of the fact with this approach, this is going to fail, you would be unhappy, and you will take somebody else down with you. yet for some people, getting married is a huge situation.
2016-10-21 21:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his behavior is unacceptable when the kids are involved.
Buy some ice cream and wrap it in a plain wrapper and write on it FISH. Then when he refuses ice cream to the kids, get out the "Fish" and give the kids more than he has and if he asks, refuse him. I realize thats kind of childish, but it responds to his behavior. In the bedroom, tell him that you don't want to share with a selfish person, when he joins the family things wil change.
2006-11-10 13:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. That is a personality issue that can't be corrected unless the selfish person REALLLLLLLLLY wants to change. It would be like an alcoholic giving up his drink. It would be an uphill battle at best and there's an extremely bad chance that it would work.
People with mental problems have a good chance of success with meds and therapy. People with personality disorders have no chance of success because most of them think there's absolutely nothing wrong with them. It's a hopeless case.
2006-11-10 13:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't selfish at all. My father was the same way as your husband sounds when I was growing up. It caused up to not be on speaking term for the past 10 years. Just tell your spouse how it is affecting his relationship with your children.
2006-11-10 13:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't really change them into unselfish, but you can teach them to be a little better about it. You really should, because if you don't - the little ones will learn to be selfish as well.
Selfish is natural, unselfish is learned behaviour. One learns to be unslefish when he sees the greater benefits of it.
Do you remember what experiences taught you to be considerate of others?
2006-11-10 13:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes all is possible. Pray dear friend. Prayer is very powerful.
What helped me was reading "Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. Very very good. All things are possible with God.
2006-11-11 00:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible. They get more selfish with age and it becomes more and more intolerable for the unselfish spouse.
It probably comes from the way he was raised....a values problem-I think.
2006-11-11 00:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by TL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not in that thing they call a man. Them are some selfish things. Especially that thing that I married.
2006-11-10 13:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by tessie35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be selfish to him right back, especially in the bedroom...I think that will make him want to change.
2006-11-10 13:47:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋