Although I have asked him for as long as we've been married to be more affectionate and attentive it hasn't happened. Deep down I know he doesn't love me deeply. This bothers me. I have tried everything. We have two children (6 and 4). Should I forego my happiness for their sake? Oh.. I am 31 years old.
2006-11-10 13:24:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should never stay with someone for the sake of the children because if youre not happy the children wont be either and you and your husband are role models for your children do you want them to grow up and have a marriage like yours or would you rather leave while the children are young and hopefully you can find somebody that will love you the way youre supposed to be loved and let your children grow up around that enviroment instead
2006-11-10 15:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by rainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman, if you can find someone who loves you the way you find , I would say go for it. But chances are you might gonna end up in some lunethic's hand. which would be even worse.
I mean this is what I say, both of you might not be the perfect "soulmates" and for some reason you rushed into marriage.
But now as a mature people both of you should leave the selfishness and give in to each other. He should love you. It doesn't matter if you are the perfect "soul mate" or not. what is done has been done.
But if you think if he is cheating or something like that, well pack your bag.
But I do believe communication is a key to eavry thing. I know you have been talking to him about it, and marriage without afffection sucks.
But I wish he was the one who asked the question. I would have proved him that anything is possible.
I mean love is a choice after all. I can choose to love anyone. Atleast he can do that.
I donno, but I wish you all the best, and I feel what you are going thru.
I hope God will do something for you.
2006-11-10 21:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to reevaluate what you want from life. The children are getting older and you may have more time on your hands to just think about life in general.Will you be happier if you leave or can you find something to keep you happy if you stay in this marriage?? Children are resilient and if the split, if it happens, is amicable and they see both parents it should be fairly easy for them. You're only 31 and still young enough to start again. Best of luck!!!!
2006-11-10 21:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Moira S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
31 is still young. Get out of this marriage as quick as possible. Don't waste time finding someone else and have a happy love life. If you have a long life, you have about 60+ yrs left to be happy instead of being unhappy.
2006-11-11 04:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy first. If happiness doesn't come, leave.
Your children would rather have happy parents that are divorced, then miserable parents putting on a front by staying married.
I was the daughter in a situation like yours. I only wish my parents got divorced more quickly, so that I could have seen them both happy, instead of "blah".
2006-11-10 21:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jocelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you affectionate and attentive to him? Have you really shown him what those words mean? Some people have a hard time expressing their feelings. Doesn't mean they don't have any. Love is a verb, not an adjective.
2006-11-10 21:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michelle D,
This is a question that only you can answer. No one can tell you what to do in a matter such as this. You will have to talk to him seriously and hope that he will listen to your side of the story. If he does'nt listen and does'nt try to improve then perhaps you will find the right solution to your problem. Good luck.
TDCWH
2006-11-10 21:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋