is it ok for a woman to start spying on her husband phone calls when she thinks that he might be seeing SO?

Question

My huby would not answer his phone when he is with me. He would turn doen his phone as soon as he comes home, and he would make all his calls when he is out alone. Is it ok that your husband be talking to his friend ( a buddy), a girl friend, that he has known for more than 15 years. But he would call her only when he is alone. he would tell me that he spoke with her once in a while, but apparently he calls her almost every day. sometimes as soon as he weaks up. is this normale for a husband to have a secret phone calls from her, and it seems that they talk only when i am at work. do i have the right to spy and start checking his phone record. tell me what do u think?

Answer 1

if you think something is going on then you have every right to spy. however, getting caught if he isn't cheating or doing anything wrong can have some bad consequences. there is no reason that he shouldn't be able to have a phone conversation in front of you or be lying about how often he talks to her. something is going on. check it out.

Answer 2

You definitely have a right, you are investing your life into the marriage as well. He shouldn't be talking with her as much as he is. I had the same problem with a woman my husband knew and it got out of control. I finally put down my foot and told him to either let her go or I would go. That's what it took for him to get the clue.

This wasn't a girl he had known for a long time either, she was a girl he had met just before he and I had met and he felt, for some reason to keep in contact with her. He thought he was being friendly because she was battling depression and she took it completely the wrong way.

Your husband shouldn't even be playing with that potential fire. I will tell you though, that checking his phone records will only confirm or deny your suspicions, you need to have a plan of action to deal with what you find out.

Answer 3

Do it, but only if you really want to know, and have a plan of attack when you do find out. I did it. It hurt like hell to hear some of the things that were said, but I had to listen. It became an obssesion.We got through it and all trust is finally back, it took years. But if your not willing or able to accept what your about to hear, don't do it. He sounds like he's hiding something.

Answer 4

Yes, you have the right to do anything to protect your marriage. Hire a PI. Your husband in my opinion IS definitely having an affair. Be prepared to divorce him.

Answer 5

No, this is absolutely NOT NORMAL or okay. I think you have a problem brewing. Your husband is either thinking of playing around or already is.

There is no such thing as privacy in marriage. There should be no secrets.

Answer 6

Yes you do but it really sounds odd that you should all of a sudden pick up on this now.What happen to the trust in your marriage. some thing more than what is said here is going on

Answer 7

Sometimes people have to take matters into their own hands and find things out for themselves. Find out what the big secret is all about.

Answer 8

You have the right to look at his phone bill, and it sound awful fishy. It sounds like there is more going on than he is saying.

Answer 9

I always check my husband phone and his i.m. account. If he was doing that kind of behavior. You should defiantly check his phone. This seems shady.

Answer 10

You better do all the spying you can, this man is hiding something- you have the right to know.
good luck-