Help! My ex plays games with visitation like no call no show, visiting abt one time monthly and then calls making demands and posturing like i am keeping him from his kids. He emailed and told me he would not be here tonight but would be by tomorrow at 8. i replied that we will be at church at 8pm, and he can either come after we get home - 9pm, or sunday am. he called abt 6am yelling at me. I told him that if he can not be polite i would hang up on him and did. later he called back and left a msg that he expected me not to be home for visit time - 6pm, and that he was bringing "a police escort" to have me arrested for interferance with his "rights!" this man is nuts! I will be back at the lawyer soon, but any advice? I can not afford this!
2006-11-10 13:09:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Keep a record of all visits kept, missed, arranged and missed, rreasons given when he called and what he said, and keep a running record! That will save your behind in court!
He can't have you arrested for interference with Custody! You are the Custodian!!
Oh, and let him bring you to court!! Much cheaper, and ask for attorney fees!
2006-11-10 13:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything by email so that you have proof. Tell him in an email that you want him to tell you every thing by email, that he must email you to let you know when he will pick the kids up. If it isn't within the previously agreed upon boundaries and is not possible for you at that time then email him back pointing it out and give him an alternative. Do it all by email or if this isn't possible, follow up by email. Use video and audio tapes also whenever possible and legal.
2006-11-10 13:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by scarlettt_ohara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appears like a real loopy, this is for particular. He probable meant it while he mentioned he mandatory his area from you, at the beginning. yet being waiting to speak on a adult men behalf , even while we wreck up with the lady for regardless of stupid reason, in the event that they don't seem to be getting back jointly,m there'll very practically be a era the place the guy remains very possessive over his ex, so this is only popular for him to act like that. provide him it slow, and the entire immature jealousy element will bypass.
2016-12-28 18:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he is acting imbalanced, he is still the father of his kids and needs to get help to normalize his relationship with you and with them. This is not good for the kids, but resolving things with him through counseling can actually prove to be a good example to them of responsible adult behavior despite adverse situations.
I encourage you to seek mediation and/or counseling to restore balance in working relationship as much as you can. Even if you are doing all you can, and he continues to be a mess, if you keep the commitment to working things out with him as the father of his children, that means something to them. That shows them that you want peace and sanity for their sake as well. Seek prayer, legal and mental health support if necessary to help him to stabilize. He may be acting off his rocker while he still recovers from the emotional shock of losing control of the relationship. If you demonstrate a commitment to stabilizing the situation, that is the most you can do and he has to meet you the rest of the way. Seek mediation, counseling, and prayer support.
Take care and God bless.
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2006-11-10 13:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by emilynghiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the grown up, be sure that you do whatever you need to do to protect your kids but don't fall for the trap. It's tough to do the right thing in situations like this but you'll never regret it.
2006-11-10 13:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Concerned Citizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let him or the police make you believe that the police will arrest you~ They can't! It is a civil matter. Meaning a judge has to settle it.
2006-11-10 20:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Cynthia B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can have you arrested.You can not play with the guidelines that the court has layed out.PLAY BY THE RULES. He has rights.
2006-11-10 13:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by jewking_jewbastard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call police for stalking you
2006-11-10 13:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by chrishomingtang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋