My son has been living with his Dad for 2 yrs. We saw each other a little bit. But I don't know what to say now. He came to visit me and everytime I say something he rolls his eyes or argues or corrects me. He is somewhat sarcastic to me. Is this normal?
Are there any mothers out there with good conversation topics?
His Dad talks about football and they play Madden Football on the playstation. They can talk about guy things. What does a 45 yr. old mother/teacher talk to her son about.? I tried taking him out to eat and the beach one day and we just ended up snapping at each other about everything. Except in the restaurant we talked about the decor in the restaurant....it was sports related. He said he wanted to decorate his room that way....we talked about how good the pizza was....etc.....but other than that....he seemed bored or mad at me. What is the deal?
2006-11-10 13:07:21 · 7 answers · asked by greeneyes 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Rebecca is right. I didn't want anything to do with mom or dad when I was 18. But right after I moved out I was like a whole new person to them. Moms are easy to take for granted. It's a maturity issue.
2006-11-10 14:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is too young for anti-depressants. 13 is also a difficult age. I hate this stupid "emo" label the kids love to throw around these days. Try not to use it with your son. How do you know he cut himself? Maybe it was an accident? Kids get hurt all the time, why are you assuming he did it? Even if he did, he could just be imitating someone he knows and/or trying to see what all the fuss is about. Either way , at 13, you're not going to want to talk to your parents about that. Don't talk about the cutting, as he's probably embarassed. Don't overreact either cause that could make a meaningless incident into something else. Just talk to him like normal. Make sure he knows he's loved. Don't be overdramatic. Don't overanalyze him. 13 is a rough age. He probably has some issues about his brother. If I were 13 and my brother wasn't around I'd feel bad about that. And if there were violence issues that could be some unresolved issues there too. Just give him some space, 13 year olds aren't really into "talking" to their parents.
2016-05-22 04:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mention something that was fun or funny when he was a child then if that gets a nice smile out of him .
treat him like he is a grown man but at the same time remember he really isn't going to the beach with mom alone ugggg that is what he most likely thought but one day he may have kids and then going to the beach with him and his kids and or wife Will be great fun.
spend more time listening to him then talk to him and if he says something you think if not a good idea like how he got drunk at a party don't freak out just listen at some point you could suggest he be careful that's about all . don't worry about this you mom and even though he does not talk with you much this is just that he knows he is supposed to be out of the nest and flying on his own . again once he has some kids or is older he will fly back with lots of chirps in him
2006-11-10 13:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect a young man of 18 to want to spend alot of time with his mother. But if you had a good relationship when he was younger, then what happened to it? My son is now 23, but we can talk about anything and everything. I just don't try to dominate his life or be his best friend. I'm his mom, and he knows he can always come to me for help with anything and vice versa. Maybe you should just tell your son you love him very much, and even though you may not have alot in common, you will always be there for him.
2006-11-10 13:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you just let him come to you I mean im a teenager aswell and at this day and time its not cool to smile or talk to parents unless its really important. I know this was probably not the answer you were looking for but it is the best choice. Trust me. He will eventaully talk to you cause he's gonna be wondering why your not talking to him.
2006-11-10 14:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by lane_purcell06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jsut ask hoim how his day was and offer to do things that a young man would like to do if that doeesnt work spy and pry but dont get caught ull make a mess
coming from a 22 year old boy lol my mom and i have little in common but i always made her happy i love makin people happy soo watch him closley find his likes and dislikes and hone to them learn what he likes and study the topic skate boarding perhaps learn what it takes to do what he does and ask him how he does it act like ur interested
2006-11-10 13:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by wes m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at that age, usually there is a disconect with the mother and the boy looks toward a male role model...he is at the point where he is starting to live his own life, but also wants to know how it should be....things take time, and he will come back
2006-11-10 13:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋