My husband and I are seperated with definant intent of divorce and I've been seeing someone whom I really have feelings for, however my husband is getting close to someone now and it's bothering me, like REALLY bothering me, is this normal at first? Will I get over this or does it mean it's not over for me yet? Please help if you've been through this.
2006-11-10 12:40:43 · 29 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you obviously loved your "husband" or you never would have married him. feelings of jelousy are normal. it is almost like being rejected when someone you loved is now with another person. just try to remember why you are wanting the divorce in the first place . that way you won't get all confused.
2006-11-10 12:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean girl, I have been through this same thing before, it is normal at first because you have just separated but at the same time it means that you are not over him yet. All it is is jealousy, and why would you be jealous if you didn't want him back. But baby girl don't stress yourself out about it because it is normal. I wish you all of the best because it will be hard for you to except the fact that he is seeing other people, my only advice to you is not to worry about what he is doing move on, and remember that he is feeling the exist thing that you are feeling,although he may say that he isn't he is!
2006-11-10 20:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just after I divorced my husband, I had to go over to his house to get some things of mine that he still had. Out from the bedroom came this woman in her nightgown, and it really bothered me although I didn't want the man any more. Your feelings are normal and they will go away. Lots of people have this experience.
2006-11-10 20:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely normal for you to have these feelings. For some strange reason we don't really want them, but we don't want anyone else to have them either. Take your time in your new relationship just to make sure you are over your soon to be ex. A co-worker of mine was married for 25 years and her husband came to her and said I don't love you anymore. She was single for 2 years before she starting dating anyone with intent to be in a serious relationship. You don't just fall out of love with someone that easy. It will take time to get over those such feelings. I wish you the best.
2006-11-10 20:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by jrw3571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we often wonder when we see our husband we are divorcing, in the arms of another, if we missed something good about him, we wonder what the other person sees, that we missed, we feel badly because he seems to be treating her the way he should have treatesd us, when we were married to him. it is quite normal to have feeling's like this, and divorce is sad and hard on people, we never know if we are making the right choice, we fear the future and the unknown. sometimes it's because we aren't as in love with the new person as we were with our husbands, and it upsets us to know they have someone new, and they could be happy, when we question our own happiness.
2006-11-10 20:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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It simply means that it's a little too soon to be jumping into another relationship. Rebound relationships often fail sooner than the previous one did. Take some time off and enjoy being single for several months. Stick with dating. If his dating bothers you, it's most likely because you still have feelings for him. And if you were married to him, you always will. Doesn't mean you won't get over him. Doesn't mean you should get back together. It just means you have invested feelings into your marriage. Few things about a split up feels right.
If you two are still friends, talk to him about it. He may feel the same. Be mature adults. Be yourself.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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2006-11-10 20:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Alive and Well 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows that your still love your husband. So, try to forget the feeling either good or bad. Try to recover from the divorce impact, then you plan your own. It is not a right time, if your in confusion stage.
if i am in your situation, i will do what is mentioned.
2006-11-10 21:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by M.R.Palaniappa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dont' know why you seperated or who's idea it was for the divorce. I would say that you need to just look the other way and dig into whoever your seeing now and move on.
2006-11-10 20:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to have your cake and eat it too. Either you want this new guy or you husband, you can't have it both and him not. Come on now, did you read what you wrote? You can't get jealous of your husband getting a little piece when you have been doing it this long!!
2006-11-10 20:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy at first when you see your soon to be x falling for someone other than you. But you must be excepting of this in order to move on, it may be hard at first but i feel that is natural. In time it gets easier but it never quite goes away
2006-11-10 22:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by don b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋