my mum and dad have split up and i have the choise who should i chose??? plz tell me!!!!!?

Answer 1

That's a terrible thing for you to have to choose between the parents you love. Generally speaking, if they are both good people, boys should live with fathers and girls should live with mothers until they are 18. That's only because the parent of the same sex can help you through the teens easier. But, if there are other circumstances...like one parent travels all the time on business, or runs around with a busy social life, then you should stay with the parent who is around more and willing to make a lot of time for you. You can visit regularly with the other parent, you know. In fact, you can live with one parent during the school year, and the other parent all summer long, if you like. Good luck!

Answer 2

Maybe this is the reason why you gave me such a rude answer to my question and called me a jerk. But don't worry, I'll just assume you're having a bad day and I won't do the same to you because believe it or not I'm nice and I really want to help you.

I think you should live with whoever you feel more comfortable with. There's always one parent that we get along with better than the other parent, even if we try to deny it. There's always one parent that we feel with more comfortable with. Just ask yourself which parent that is for you. When you get in trouble for something or you have a problem, which parent do you feel more comfortable talking too? With which parent do you get along with better? Which parent do you think will always have your back? Which parent understands you better? Something else to take into account are the circumstances that you would have with each parent. Obviously one, or maybe even more parents, will move to a different location. Keep in mind if you would have to change schools and consider if that would be good or bad (do you like your current school? Do you have a lot of friends in your neighborhood? If so you probably won't want to move). I know it's a hard decision, but I'm sure you'll make the right choice when the time comes. Plus, at least I'm sure you'll still be able to see your other parent so it's not like your relationship will be completely cut off. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 3

Sweetheart, you don't need to "choose" either parent. Split your time between them. I'm sure you love them both and going throug a divorce is hardest on the kids. Maybe spend the school year with one and the summer and vacation time with the other. Switch off holidays, etc.

Also, which one do you get a long with the best? In good times and in bad? Do you have brothers or sisters? Do you want to be in the same house with them? This is only a decision that YOU can make.

Just remember that your parents love you and will respect you and love you the same regardless of who's house you sleep in at night.

Answer 4

You would have to reveal much more information before an answer here would be the "right" one for you, because there are so many factors. It is a hard part of life. If you can, see both parents, even if you live with one more than the other, because in effect you now have two families, not just one.

Answer 5

when I was 13 I was faced with that same choice and it wasn't easy. Some times I feel like I may have made a mistake. I picked my Mom and I ended up moving in with my dad when i was 16. This is a choice that no child should have to make. Follow your heart and do not worry about their feelings do what you think is best for you. They are doing what is best for them by getting the divorce. So pick who is best for you.

Answer 6

Just split the time equally, if your parents live to far apart for that then you should probably spend time with the one who would be best for you, eg. if your mother is a schoolteacher then you should stay with her because she will help you in school more, or if your dad is a football coach, maybe stay with him because he can help you with your physical strength. If one is very irresponsible or something it would be best to stay with the other for the same reason. I hope this helped

Answer 7

First you are not picking your mom or dad you're going to tell them that you are to spend time with both of them just as much as the other so that mean that both have to be around your school and if not then the one that doesn't will have to pick you up and drop you off for the days you are with them. they are to have you a room at both houses so you feel like it your house to. And when I say room I mean room no one that is only yours when your their . They want you to be the one to make this chiocethen so be it .I feel this way you don't have to and you all win

Answer 8

Tell your parents you want to split the time up between the two of them and if they give you problems call the court and tell them you want your own lawyer, they'll give it to you for free. Never run away or be disrespectful though, okay. You'll do just fine.

Answer 9

If you need to chose one parent then you need to listen to them both. The parent that does not bash, be little or call the other one names is the parent you should be with.

You don't need anger in your life. The parent that can control this is your choice. You will be happier and you wont end up hating either one of your parents.

Answer 10

1. You should choose who you love the most.
2. You do realize you are asking people who have no idea what your mom or dad or like? It's yahoo answers. You must have really been racked with indecision.