Why is every one so judgemental about a 13 year old having sex?

Question

okay, i posted a question earlier about getting birthcontrol and Morning after pill, and almost everyone said that i was way to young to have sex or even enjoy it.My mom does know i am sexually active.I use condoms( one broke the other day) And yes I really really enjoy sex.Why does everyone have such a problem

I dont sleep with guys that are more than a year older than me i sleep with guys my age!

Answer 1

Honey I'm the same age as you and as a girl, we're to young to throw away our bobies to guys that just what to have fun and to all their friends call us discriminating words ( maybe not all guys ) and what happens if you become pergnat ( condoms and BC don't always work ) then your throuing your life away! the dad will be to young to take responsiblity for his actions! So girlie as a girl your age that has so many expectations for her future please I hope you don't give away yours!
I hope you don't think I think lowly of you!

Answer 2

You are a 13 year old KID, what happens if you get pregnant? Nobody is going to hire a little kid, by law you must be 16 to work and I know your mom sure the hell is not going to raise your baby.

If you are telling the truth about your mom knowing you are having sex then she should be ashamed and not have a child, obviously she is not capable of being responsible. I can tell you right now if this information gets abck to DCF they are going to come in and be asking your mom a lot of questions and may even take you away, I know this **** because my aunt is a DCF member.

Only a irresponsible moron would let a 13 year old little kid have sex, your mother needs to grow the heck up and go to parenting classes and needs to stop being a friend and start acting like a mother. A 13 year old little kid should not even be dating.

Her idiot *** will be slapping herself when you get knocked up and she gets stuck raising the baby and paying for it.
You are 13, you have not even had sex ed yet, you have no idea about diseases and here is a newsflash just because someone says they do not have any does not mean they do not, for all you know the person you slee pwith may have AIDS, you will be crying to blues when you catch a disease that kills you are you get to be a mom at 13.

Answer 3

Because 13 yr olds are just children. They should be playing with Barbies, dolls, and coloring, not having adult relations.
I promise you when you're 20 or 30 and you look back to this age (hopefully you won't have 10 kids by then), you'll see how foolish your actions are. You'll most likely be embarrassed by your behavior.

I'm glad you're using condoms but they are not 100% safe/effective. You think pregnancy at 13 or 14 is bad, wait till you're faced with Herpes, Hepatitis, or HIV/AIDS.

Let me ask you two things:
1- Do you think they boys who are having sex with you really respect you? Having sex is not going to get them to stay with you or even love you.
2- If you had a 13 year old daughter, would you want her to be having sex???

BTW- there is no way you can "really really enjoy sex". Your not emotionally mature enough yet to fully enjoy all aspects of an intimate encounter and I'm pretty sure a 14 year old boy does NOT know how to fully pleasure a woman.
Do yourself a favor - respect yourself & your body. Stop screwing around!

Answer 4

Sex is an act for reproduction, thats first of all, GROWN UPS have sex b/c it feels good, somethings even great... to take precautions from getting pregnant there are ways to prevent unwanted/unplanned pregnancies, i.e. condoms, The Pill, etc....

Now with this information, ask yourself are you mature enough to take the risk of having sex at your young age? Can you alway protect yourself every single time without fail?, be aware that each time you have intercourse there is a possibility of becoming pregnant, getting HIV, STD's, among a massive list of problems?? If you can't, then dont do it....Sex is a big responsibility and not even adults get it right. Be safe, be careful

Answer 5

Good girl for at least communicating with your mum and using condoms.

If you are having active regular sex you need to be on the pill. Both in fact in case the condom breaks!


There is a legal age limit for sex for a reason. At 13 you are too young to be sexual and understand the consequenses of infection and pregnancy. You are still growing and this could be damaging to you. Just 13 years ago your mum was pregnant with you!

Be careful at least and i think it is obvious why us adults have a negative opinion about an under ager risking making a childs life they dont know how to look after.

Answer 6

There is nothing that anyone is going to say that will change your mind so why ask. You are at least taking the responsible approach to having sex by looking into birth control and using condoms. Please continue to use condoms whether you are on birth control or not, they will help protect you against STD's and pregnancy. Just remember that there are always possible consequences to your actions and you might be surprised one day by a positive pregnancy test or an abnormal pap smear or STD test. Just be careful and remain informed and definitely talk to your mom about getting the HPV vaccine because this will help protect you from cervical cancer and warts.

Answer 7

I am 13 but it does not mind me the whole point of sex is to have children and if your just being sexually active because it feels good or whatever is stupid, think about the consequences. This is your life, and you do not want to regret anything that horrible at such a young age.

Answer 8

Because, no one wants you to end up pregnant or worse with an STD. Like ones that cause big blisters on your private parts. That's really really gross and no 13 year old should have to deal with that!

I had a good friend to got pregnant in 7th grade. Could you imagine having a baby? Or, making the decision to abort or adopt your baby. Those are definately grown up decisions that you won't fully understand until you are much older.

Everyone is just trying to spare you unnecessary pain.

Btw, have you talked to your mom about this? I would at least tell her about your sexual activity and/or ask for birth control.

Answer 9

If you are not prepared to take care of a child, you shouldn't be having sex. That doesn't just meen for 13 year olds. Nothing is 100 % effective against pregnancy. Besides, there is so many things that can happen besides pregnancy, including emotional issues that a normal 13 yr old is not old enough to handle. If you do continue please cont to use condoms despite birth control. boys that are sleeping w/ 13 yr olds are not just sleeping with one girl. Many probably have STDS. Good luck and hope you don't end up w/ something you don't want

Answer 10

Age has nothing to do with it. You're not married, and people should only have sex or do sexual things with people they're married to. Some people say it's "old fashioned" but what's right and wrong doesn't change.

What you're doing is no more right or wrong than a 25-year-old unmarried person having sex but I think a lot of people think you don't know what you need to know in order to make an informed decision about it. Maybe that's true but a lot of 25-year-olds don't know, either, or they wouldn't be having sex if they're not married.

Answer 11

I wouldn't say its being judgemental but more so concerned. There are older men who look to take advantage of younger girls and there is the issue of being protected and by you saying you're sexually active I am hoping you know all about these methods. Young women such as yourself tend to make decisions based on the moment rather than thinking about consequenses and such. For you to admit that a condom boke the other day and mention it so casually suggests that maybe sex isnt something you should be engaging in. The condom broke for me and now I have a daughter. You have to allow yourself time to mature and grow as a person and realize that you have more to offer guys than your body and that there is more to life and dating than sexual gratification. Just be careful and think about the situation as this: No one is judging you but are concerned about you rather. If you are going to continue to engage in sexual relations then maybe you and your mom should talk about more effective birth control methods such as the depo shot! (Depo Provera) Here's a site that you can check out!
http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/bcdepo.htm

Just be careful!