Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 months ago and her dad died 2 weeks later will we get back together of 3yr 9m?

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Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 months ago and her dad died 2 weeks later will we get back together of 3yr 9mo
me and my girlfriend was together for 3 years and 9 months. we broke up 3 months ago. her dad died 2 weeks later. I broke up with her because she told me I didnt matter. I didnt know she meant I didnt matter when shes trying to spend time with her parents. shes 19 years old, Im 23 years old. through out the relationship it was hard for us to see each other because her parents were so strict that we had to sneak to see each other and only was able to talk on the phone 2 days a week. so the anger we got from that would be thrown at each other. but once we realized it we became a better relationship. she says we will never get back together because she felt I wasnt there for her in that stressful time of her dad. I've always been there for her through everything. im her first everything, boyfriend, virginity you name it except for a crush before me. she has a grudge against me, possibly dont like me as a person. my friends say she will come back but i dont know. do you think she will?

Answer 1

Wow, you really put a lot of your experience and feelings into a little space there. No one can tell you what will happen or even what could happen or even what couldn't. Be brave and true to yourself. Don't pay much attention to what's going to happen or has happened. You need to give what IS happening your full attention. Stay with it and things will work out, at the very least so that you have some sense of who you are and what's real.

Good luck, my friend. She may come back and she may not. But in any case, you'll be there. And that's a good thing.

Answer 2

It hasn't even been a year since her dad died. Don't expect rational thinking out of her. Remember that anger is a part of the grief process, and it's really hard to be angry at the person who died, so she needs to find something else to be angry at. Congratulations; you're the lucky target! And while her reason for being angry at you is rather twisted, it's true enough that it will sustain her. The easy way out would be to cut your losses and move on, but I'm not sure that's the right thing to do. So what you really need to do is keep reminding yourself that it wasn't your fault, and odds are she'll see that eventually. Make sure she knows how to reach you if she needs to, and then just let it go for a while. Maybe call her once a month or so if she never calls you - just to check in on her. And if she does call you, try as hard as you can to not be angry for all that's happened so far. In the wrong place and time, she might misconstrue that as *you* rejecting *her*.

Answer 3

Only time will tell. She is going through alot right now, dealing with alot. The fact that her parents were against the two of you seeing each other and her dad just passing away, maybe she feels some guilt by seeing you behind their back and now that he is gone, maybe she is trying to deal with the guilt and his death. Give her time. If she comes back, then you will know.

Answer 4

I think that she meant that u don't matter b/c her father just died.so that is what think that's what she meant