I Am Turning 16 In 3 Days And Am Getting My License. I Passed My Drivers Test With A Minus 0 So I Am A Good Driver. I Have To Drive To This Place In The City About 30min Away With A Friend To Go To A Golf Pracitce But My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Drive. I Have Driven To This Place Dozens Of Times With Her But She Is Super Nervous About Letting Me Go Without Her. How Do I Make Her Trust Me More To Go? She Knows I Am Responsible
2006-11-10 10:51:12 · 5 answers · asked by AHaskizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe it's because the friend is going. Your mom might feel that your attention will be distracted by a friend in the car.
You might have to work your way up to the level of driving with friends through time and good driving. Try doing more local driving on your own, and then tell her you are ready to try driving with a friend. I don't think trying something like that for a few months would hurt, and it would show her your "mature patience" level you can have. As a mom of a 12 year old, my son is going to have to prove to me that his attention to driving is that of a person with good driving experience, before I let drive around town.
Your mom is very nervous, so think about ways you can prove to her that she is being nervous over nothing. Happy Birthday!
2006-11-10 10:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like the problem is with your driving but with the rest of the situation. Try to see things from your Mom's point of view. You want to drive into the city, 30 minutes away with a friend of the same age. She's looking at the traffic, the influence of other people on you (with a car and being 16). Maybe she's worried that you'll get talked into giving someone ride home. Or going somewhere else afterwards. Or.... You can only get her to trust you by being trustworthy. And that takes time and work for both of you. Instead of making this trip without her, maybe you could start with small local errands to build up your reliability - run to the store and pick-up groceries, then come right back. Or drop her off somewhere to do errands, do a few without her and meet her back at the place at the right time. She may not let you do this trip this time. Give her a break. It's really hard for you to be growing up and becoming independant so fast. She knows you can be responsible, but she has to learn to trust you to make the right decisions with this new freedom. Once she gets used to the idea, things will fall into place.
2006-11-10 19:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by elistanidel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will call her as soon as you get there ,
and then do it . It will take alittle time but she
will start to feel a bit better when you have
been doing it for a while .
2006-11-10 20:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her 2 ride with you for about an hour, then she'll realise she is being kind of over protective, so then maybe she'll let you go
=) good luck!
2006-11-10 18:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what you can do to gain her trust. Perhaps she is more worried about your safety than your behavior.
2006-11-10 18:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by netlocmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋