Why is my wife so jealous of other women? She is pretty but calls other pretty women that dress atractivly "sluts" and "whores". I don't even flirt or talk to them, but she will change the tv channel if an attractive woman is on tv. What's wrong with her? I have always been faithful-respectful?
2006-11-10 10:35:13 · 13 answers · asked by al bundy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may look like it has something to do with u but the problem is her. She's very insecure and even though u said she's pretty herself, she may not think so and is probably constantly comparing herself to other attractive women and finding that she comes up short again and again....even if it's only in her mind.
U can reassure her all u want but all the assurance in the world won't change her perception if she doesn't work on her self esteem first.
2006-11-10 10:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am this way my self. Don't give her any reason what so ever to think that she has to be jealous. Don't make any comments at all about another woman. Give her your undivided attention for awhile. There is a big chance that someone that she was with before you were in the picture cheated on her and she has very very low self esteem. You can change her IF you try hard enough and want to. It will take time.
2006-11-10 10:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She simply doesn't feel comfortable in her own skin. She isn't jealous, she's insecure. She has this inner dialogue all women have that says when they look in the mirror that they aren't as pretty as those women on TV or that dress attactively... your job as her loving and understanding husband is to tell her she's beautiful, not hot, to say wow when she goes out of her way to wear something special. Whether it be a blouse or skirt you should say just the one word "WOW". That'll make her smile. Saying she looks pretty is a kick in the face, it's something you say to a close relative or friend not your wife. I had this discussion with my husband, these are some key words we love to hear
2006-11-10 11:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by odessa2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife obviously suffers from low self esteem. That is a very hard thing to overcome. Unfortuatly she probably will not ever completly overcome it without a real good counselor and a lot of soul searching. All you can do is understand it and try to reassure her often by word and deed. You sound like you really care so be patient and supportive and that will help a bit. Good Luck
2006-11-10 10:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very insecure. low self esteem. you see the beauty, but she does not. jealousy is manifestation of these ugly internal issues.
also she may have been deeply hurt by some jerk long ago who really broke her down emotionally, and you are the one who is now dealing with the damage done to her. just love her, be patient, but firm, and try to help her pick up the peices. maybe she needs to go talk to someone. i know everyone says that......
but really, it helps. my mind is screwed up every which way from Sunday, and I made an appointment today....and that ALONE made me feel a little better, because help should be on the way soon. let her see a counselor or something......she needs to address her internal issues or you will pay for the rest of your lives togethr.
2006-11-10 11:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a very low self esteem. I bet she is young as well. She needs to understand that she is not the only woman in this world that you are going to find attractive. Tell her that it is a big turn off that she has such a low self esteem. She has no reason to be upset unless you are gawking and telling her wow did you see the knockers on that one then she has the right to be upset. She needs help she has issues.
2006-11-10 11:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wifey has low self esteem Big Time. Could be some sort of child hood trauma, or even a chemical imbalance that can be managed through proper diet and medication. I don't mean to sound insensitive or nothing but she's very self absorbed and needs to check her jealousy. It isn't normal behavior, watch her carefully okay?
2006-11-10 10:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know when i was going through that , right after i got with the man i am married to now. the jealousy was strong , that i could not even begin to push it aside. an i had no reason for it. the feeling of jealousy is Terrible , for real! an it is like a sickness that i could not explain until today. it does go away , but all that takes time to trust someone 100 %. it is terrible to go through on both sides of this fence.
2006-11-10 10:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a low self worth, and perhaps she has been hurt in the past by one of these women who dresses like this. she has some issues that happened to her in her past she has not yet resolved. will take alot of love and understanding on your part, she sounds as if she has a trust issue.
2006-11-10 10:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this i no.my wife was the same way.and in a way still is but not as bad.she fills like the other's will take you away.she is not.rally happy.her last boyfriend did this to her.it will take time.all you can do is tall her look at your salf.and what it is doing to you.don't sat somthing that i am not doing.unless you won't me to.and do the same to her.let her no what she is doing .it worked for me.maby.it will work for you
2006-11-13 07:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋