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ok. please. i need serious answers only. i just found out that my friend was raped by her father a number of times when she was younger. she is my best friend and i cant belive he did this to her. she was never physicaly hurt but she has been with her boyfriend for 2 years and is scared to have sex with him. she doesnt live with her parents anymore and her mom doesnt know about any of this. whats the right thing for me to do? stay out of this? go to the cops and get that asshole in prision, what? someone, anyone i need advice. ive never been in this situation before. he hasnt touched her for about 4 years, is it too late to do anything? she never told anyone except me a few days ago.

2006-11-10 10:29:34 · 3 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Health Women's Health

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Talk to her and suggest that she get counselling for this, because any type of abuse will have long lasting effects on the person, and any relationship they will be in. She should not feel pressured to have sex with her boyfriend, and she should have no sexual contact until a therapist says it is ok to try.
Also tell her that in order to protect other girls from him, and in order for justice to be done for what he did to her, she should report him. And if she does not, you will feel compelled to because she is your friend. Tell her you care about her health and her wellbeing, and if she has not told her boyfriend, that conversation needs to happen. He deserves to know, also it will help him to be patient with her, sexually. (Personally, I'm glad they haven't had sex yet because I think it should only happen in marriage. It would have saved her a lot of hurt if her father had believed that, too)
I'm praying that you will have the wisdom to deal with this, and the peace of heart and compassion for your friend that you need in order to counsel her. Take care.

2006-11-10 10:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to have a discussion with her, she needs to go to the police, and to counseling. A man like that won't stop doing what he did. He's not raping her because she moved out, but there are other kids in her old neighborhood that aren't so lucky. She needs to get him help so that everybody else is safe. If its been 4 years, I can almost guarantee that he's raped somebody else by now.

2006-11-10 11:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0 0

Talk to her before you go to the cops or anything. That could put her in a really bad situation with her dad. The most important thing you can do is be there to support her and comfort her.

2006-11-10 10:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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