I have recently found out that my husband was calling and emailing this korean girl he met while he was oversea for work. He claim that it was only for fun, but looking at the huge phone bills and the love letter emails, i doubted it. He promised not to do it again as he only loves me, can i trust him? I wanted to leave him if he loves her, but he denied... Please help me!
2006-11-10 10:22:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I highly doubt that it was "just for fun." Suggest going to marriage counseling. If he loves you and wants to work things out, he will go. If he says no, tell him your trust has been violated and that you really need for him to go with you to counseling or your relationship won't survive.
2006-11-10 10:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah_Belle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not sis, that is NOT cool! I would have clipped my husband's balls and it wouldn't have ended there.
Did he even tell this girl that he is currently MARRIED!?
I think he doesn't TRULY love you, if he could easily get swayed into such inexcusable behavior.
If he has a hard time seeing the light, then that isn't good. If he is making these excuses then he is irresponsible.
There is no such thing as "just doing it for fun" he is guilty of having an affair, an emotional one if you must and allowed himself to believe that what he is doing is "just for fun". Not in reality, no way!!
He is just justifying the fact that he is cheating on you emotionally, and you should not take it lightly. You ARE married right?
Cause a ruckus if you must, bring it on! I'm rooting for you!!
Good luck!
2006-11-10 18:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me how you make out. I am working in South Korea and have a beautiful little Korean girl "just for fun". I don't have any feelings except in the crotch. I won't do it again. Like hell I won't, gonna go at it right now.
2006-11-11 17:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he claims it was only for fun, and is denying it. won't even admit it, won't even be accountable for the hurt he has caused u. it is never good to play with someone's heart. it seems to be a little bit more than just for fun, so i would keep my eyes open, tell him how this has hurt u, and u need to set some boundaries, and make it crystal clear there will be consequences, and if he keeps doing what he is now, knowing how this has hurt u, than he isn't concerned with saving your marriage.
2006-11-10 18:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, you should leave him. His love for her is clear in the emails. If he lied about her from the beginning, why would he tell the truth about not loving her or doing it again now?
2006-11-10 18:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't love her....she's just a game he loves to play. I'm not a betting man, but I would be willing to bet you, he'll do it again. Once they start cheating , playing these kinds of games, 99 times out of a hundred, they will do it again. He does NOT love her though....she's just a "toy"!
2006-11-10 18:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned not freely given. Sounds to me like he's got some earning to do. If you love him and want him, fight for him. Make him choose.
2006-11-10 18:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if he did do this just for fun, seems he has no problem playing other people. How does he expect you to trust him?
2006-11-10 18:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
FOR FUN????I know u don't believe that. You need to find someone that loves u.I mean even if u stay with him u will never beable to trust him. I would move on.You deserve it.
2006-11-10 18:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him hes cheating maybe not a home but when hes away....
2006-11-10 18:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋