Is it hard to stay completely faithful?

Question

With all the divorces and cheating going on these days, it makes me wonder how hard staying faithful to your spouse really is. It SHOULDNT be hard, but apparently for some folks it's sadly a challenge. What is it that makes staying faithful to the one person you promised all your love to so HARD?

Answer 1

Really, it's the easiest thing in the world to do! You never let your eyes start wandering, or your ears start listening to things you shouldn't be hearing. I was faithful for 25 years.....unfortunately she was not.

Answer 2

I cheated on my first husband cuz he started the game I know now 2 wrongs don't make a right. And he left me for a so called best friend thankful now.LOL After he left I wouldn't stay faithful and I wouldn't love no one. Then I meet my husband and I feel in love with him at first sight. I have never cheated on my husband and I never have thought about it. I think some people cheat cuz there is way to much freedom in thier relationship. You know guys go with guys to the bar where ever and bingo same as women NOT JUST MEN I think there has to be a limit on freedom. You give a inch most men and women take a mile. And alot of people now adays just don't marriage to heart like they use to. It is pretty sad. My husband got in a hell of a jam he told me I had every right to leave him but I stood right there beside him and I told him when I said I do It was for times like this also I didn't marry my husband just for the good times and we have more good times than bad times.

Answer 3

I just couldn't do it, the betrayal, the lies and the sneaking around. But, to answer your question on the specific person: Just imagining how the betrayal would impact on her, my kids, our families and everything that we worked toward. The things that we share, even the small things are just between us, I couldn't share that with anyone else, nor would I put my wife in a position to believe that I could ever share that with anyone besides her. In the overall scheme of things, I need to be respected in order to feel good about myself. I guess that means I have to respect myself too. Not to mention the - do unto others as you would have them do unto you, Golden Rule thing. Just remember this, a person that will cheat cannot be trusted.. once that line has been crossed, they will never be the same. So if the love is real it's not hard to be faithful, I'm proof of that.

I stayed faithful even through cheating, lies and arguments with my ex.

Answer 4

It depends on your definition of being faithful. From the dictionary:

1. Adhering firmly and devotedly, as to a person, cause, or idea; loyal.
2. Having or full of faith.
3. Worthy of trust or belief; reliable.

We are definitely all of that to each other, therefore we are faithful to each other. Sex has nothing to do with it.

What makes it so hard for others? Trust and open communication. People don't unequivically trust their spouse. They are worried that their spouse will be judgemental if they are honest with them, because they ususally are.

It's like several current questions on here where husbands are looking at porn and the wife is jealous and offended by it. The husband still does it behind her back. He can't be honest with her because of what her reaction would be. Same goes for men going of the handle because of their insecurities about what their wife says or does.

Answer 5

If its really love, then being faithful isn't hard.... Some cheat because they think the grass is greener on the other side, and well sadly, sometimes it is. If your marriage is really just a nightmare, then cheating is really easy. Most people just don't appreciate eachother anymore. And sometimes people get married for the wrong reasons.... sad isn't it? The person cheating isn't having their needs met, so they look to someone who can meet those needs.

Answer 6

It's hard to be faithful because the novelty and excitement wear off. People forget that having a hearth fire to come home to is a secure thing and the exciting bonfire of a new love is very unstable and uncertain. So they throw away the good thing they have by playing with wildfire. Of course, they get burnt that way too.

You can't have a bonfire forever, but there are so many ways to keep the home fires burning and bright. You just have to be creative and willing to experiment, communicate and cherish your partner.

Answer 7

It depends. Once you are with someone, you feel commited. But feelings can change. Some marry to have somebody, but it can be hard. If you really care for somebody, you stay faithful. If youre not willing to stay faithful, then why the hell do you marry?(Im not saying this directly to you, ok? Incase you think I am).

Anyway, Tim Curry is awesome, especially in Rocky Horror Picture Show.

Answer 8

I think it is possible but difficult for many. I think a lot of times people are unfaithful because they are not getting what they need from their spouse and I don't mean sexually. Sexually a person can masturbate and be satisfied but especially for women it is the emotional intimacy that they seek in an affair. When a spouse shuts down emotionally for various reasons,stress, depression, work,too busy, fear etc, the remaining spouse turns to someone who will offer them understanding, sympathy etc and the relationship takes a physical aspect. Then you also get the horn dogs(sorry but mostly men) who just like variety and don't connect sex and love. Its a bitter truth but the truth all the same sex is a commodity

Answer 9

It's hard to stay faithful when every day you here your not good enough or you get put down and called names. You crave the attention of someone who wants you no matter what. It's hard to understand unless your going through the same thing.

Answer 10

Basically, maybe your not with the love of your life, because if you were you wouldnt be asking this on here. Love should never be hard but a natural and great experience to be shared only with the one you truly love. It sounds like youre unsure of yourself and beginning if the person youre with, is actually the your true soul mate. Youre the only one that can answer that. Just remember its not having what you want, but wanting what you have!

Answer 11

This is a good one I think. I really want to know this myself. I have been married once and had a bf or two when not married. Every one of them thought they had to cheat on me. I have never in my life even thought once about cheating at all, as I loved them so much. I done anything and everything for them and always treated them like they was a king. But I always got a cheater out of the deal. Once they were caught they would always tell me how sorry they were and they loved me and never do it again.....be as good as gold to me for awhile and then oops cheating again. If all these people out there that likes to cheat would treat their mate like they do the other "woman/man" they would not have all these problems, getting gripped out for cheating and/or getting kicked out for it.