women, why is it that if a woman asks her man for a little more tenderness in bed and he does not give it he is a dawg, but if a man asks his woman for the same and she does not give it, she says things llike u are not willing to take what im willing to give. situation. i asked my g/g for more kissing, touching, fondling and such before sex and that is what she said.
2006-11-10 09:40:28 · 12 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oops i meant g/f and yes i do try to give her lots of kissing, fondling and touching. but when the other person doesn't respond its just not sany fun. and yes i do get some but i want more of the tenderness not just screwing
2006-11-10 09:46:26 · update #1
WOW!!!!!
I'm shocked that you actually want the kissing, hugging, fondling, and tenderness. Most men could care less about that. Most men just want to do the deed and get it over with. It is usually all about his needs.
Your girlfriend must be crazy!!!!
Maybe you should give her dose of her own medicine. Stop giving in to her demands for a while and see how she likes it.
Be honest and tell her how you feel about the whole situation and ask her how she would feel if the roles were reversed?
Honestly, stop giving in to her demands if she can't meet yours!!!!
Tell her that you refuse to please her if she can't please you. Put your foot down.
And if she can't handle it then maybe you should look for a new girl-friend.
Because believe me there are plenty of other women out there who would love to get a hold of a guy like you!!!!!!
And you can tell her that I said so.
You deserve better than what she is willing to give you. A relationship is 50/50.
Tell her that she needs to meet your needs if she wants you to meet hers.
Tell her how it makes you feel when she keeps turning you down over and over. Then give her an example of something that you do for her that she likes. Ask her how she would feel if you were to stop doing this for her? And stop doing it.
I really hope things can work out for you 2. But if not don't be discouraged because there are plenty of women out there willing to do what you want hands down!!!!!
As far as the dawg comment it is true but, if men are dawgs for not then what does that make a woman who doesn't a *****?
Ofcourse it does. Anyone who is one sided in a relationship is man or woman. None of us are perfect but we have to be willing to furfill our partners needs. There is nothing wrong with trying something new and different atleast once to see if you are into it or not. My motow is don't knock it until you've tried it!!!!!!!!
2006-11-10 10:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a man/woman issue. It's about what people are comfortable with, and it goes for both men and women. You may feel she's not expressive or affectionate enough, or doesn't "give" enough. However, she may feel that she goes as far as she's comfortable with, and is not willing to go further into "uncomfortable" territory. From this point of view, choosing to be with her would require you to compromise, and "settle" for less than you would like. Perhaps, you two are just not compatible, through no fault of either one of you.
2006-11-10 17:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Sorry, that is human nature. Unfortunately some people can not take ANY constructive criticism and your woman is one of those people. She is taking your requests as criticism instead of a suggestion. That is too bad, because she is denying herself true fulfillment in your relationship.
2006-11-10 17:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good old bonk would suffice right now,with/without the touchy feely bits-just wanna woman:-/ Seriously,i hear what you are saying,but just keep up the communication,thats the important bit:-))
2006-11-10 18:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship only works when both people compromise to make the other happy. Sounds like you have the wrong mate.
2006-11-10 17:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by pleeks 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is not willing and turns her down why should she give him a thing,It is a 2 way street give as good as you get.My thoughts only
2006-11-10 17:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by tr2thhrt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your physical relationship is off the tracks. this type of intimacy should be focused on sharing a love, and it sounds like you two are clashing and wanting different things and not trying to please eachother. you sure you're with the right woman?
2006-11-10 18:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just sounds mean. Some women are insensitive. Date someone else.
2006-11-10 17:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women think they should control everything related to sex... you need to dump her, fast.
2006-11-10 17:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to her. She'll come around.
2006-11-10 17:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋