They were just friends, then she hardly knew him....of course, she clams up totally and blames me when I ask anything. The emails I saw accidentally were very odd for someone that barely knows each other...Like "r u ok" and, conflict of interest :)~ amoung many others....your thoughts????
2006-11-10 09:33:22 · 14 answers · asked by idwill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lady number 1 do u really have time for me to write a book on this..and by the way she lent me her computer and forgot that IM's pop up!
2006-11-10 09:39:05 · update #1
waiting for baby...or whoever you are..I thot this was the purpose of this website..for fun and for answers...geez get a grip
2006-11-11 05:18:19 · update #2
sounds as if she is thinking of cheating on u, ofcourse they blame us whenever we confront them, takes the heat off them, and distracts u. personally i would give her an ultamitium, and insist counciling, if she refuses to be accountable, or be remorseful, after u have confronted her, and told her that all this has hurt u, than there really isn't much sense to go on with her. if she doesn't know or will not admit what she is doing, than theres not much u can do to change things. personally i would change the bank accounts, see an attorney, and be ready for the worst to come. cheating is a thing we can never forget, and most marriages don't survive it. i don't think theres a chance in hell that she hardly knows this person.
2006-11-10 09:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this was a criminal case being tried in court, and what you said above was your evidence, this case would be thrown out immediately. You have nothing that even remotely resembles an affair. Its either one of two things; 1. you have a wild imagination and are real insecure or 2. youre hoping she is so you can get have an excuse to end your relationship for whatever reason. The only thing I see here is your wife has a male friend on line, not that this could ever develop into more, but not at this time. She probably clams up to you because she probably doesnt believe youre asking such a question thus showing your insecurity and she chooses to ignore you rather then answer it and start a fight over something stupid. Calm down til you actually have concrete proof, then react. Good luck
2006-11-10 10:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU know what, after reading some of the ?s you have asked in the past
you are a cry baby you are 55 act like a man just because people told you that you look younger that those not mean you need to act so immaturely you find incriminating e-mail because you went throw her e-mail not by accident so tell her the truth
tell her that because you are insecure you check her e-mail and you find letters that proof she is having an affair
ask her if she is in love with this guy, if she is ask her what does she wants to do about it
but not matter what
remember that she is just 35 that is a woman sexual pick
you need to keep on talking about why she feels the need to have an affair and if you two willing to stay in the marriage get some counsoling
2006-11-10 10:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe u should check more of her e-mails? Just to be sure that she's having an affair so u have something to prove that she is.
2006-11-10 09:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very simple ..You are suppose to beable to trust the person u love .So if u can't trust her then move on because she is making your life a living hell and life is to short for that.Good luck
2006-11-10 09:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're being lied to. Could you hire a private detective? Get proof before you do anything.
2006-11-10 09:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i found the same kinda stuff. it's an affair. make her tell you the truth. it took awhile but i finally got it out of him. she'll keep it up or do it again if you don't get to the truth.
2006-11-10 09:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Essmi d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask one of her circle of friends who you get on with to quiz her, discreetly
2006-11-10 09:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by claptrapvonspielderbeanz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would e-mail him pretending to be her, with something slightly suggestive & see what happens.
Nothing BLATANT in case there's nothing going on.
You sort of HAVE to go behind her back since she won't talk to you.
2006-11-10 09:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ummm. Follow her around or hire someone to do it for you! Go on that show CHEATERS!
2006-11-10 09:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋