what if I secretly caught my husband cheating...I dont know what to tell him, Im So Devastated?

Answer 1

Tell him that you caught him cheating, if you he can promise not to do it again and you can get past it then stay together and get some therapy.

Answer 2

I am so sorry that you had to find something like that out. I think you should take a deep breath and tell him. I know how it is because I was in that situation. I was just frozen and tried not to confront the situation because I was in denial and thought if I heard it from him, that it would become reality and hurt me even worse. In my own strange way, I was trying to cope with it by convincing myself that "Maybe if I don't say anything about it, it will eventually go away" which is not true because regardless if you say something or not, the problem is still there. You have to tell him and confront the situation because you need to know where you stand, get it off your chest (keeping it inside will make you ill or miserable), if he is willing to working on saving your marriage, or if you want to make the decision to leave. It will eventually come out even if you don't say anything because trust me he will notice that you are not treating him the same way and keeping it in will make you miserable and will change you as a person for the worse. God bless you and I will pray for things to get better and you should too.

Answer 3

if you caught him cheating you should have dragged him out from that dirty tramp and took care of business gurl, i cannot believe you have still not said anything to him while he sleeps in your bed next to while you wash his clothes, clean his house, and cook his dinner you need to tell him that you know what he has been doing and you need to get rid of him !!! You are better than that and if he really loved you he would have not doen you like that if he has doen how many other times do you think you dont know about. divorce him and find a real man who can take care of you who actually appreciates you i would not sit around and try to work things out he will just do it again have some respect for yourself and get rid of him you guys made promises to eachother when you got married and obviosly he has not kept any !!! good luck to you and i hope you find the right guy who will treat you how you deserve to be treated <3

Answer 4

When a woman catches her husband cheating then there is nothing else( when it come to a relationship between a man and a woman) that can be as hurtful-yes devastating. The best thing you can tell him is "goodbye"immediately.

Answer 5

I;m sorry to hear that this happened to you, but why would you want to continue in a relationship where he is cheating on you? Is he having unprotected sex? Maybe you should go out and buy condoms for him to use and when he asks you why you tell him that your better off safe then sorry since you know he's been sleeping around. It's not just your ego you have to worry about nowadays, it's your life, your health.

Answer 6

Did you catch him ?? You have to confront him with the evidence sooner or later if you want it resolved. He doesnt love you if he cheated on you anyway so dont tell him if you dont want to, just leave him. Im a man and im not married but I dont understand a man cheating on his wife I mean for Gods sake You have to be madly in love with someone to want to marry them dont you ?? So why would you want to be with someone else and hurt your wife.. I just dont get it.. I had so called friends who cheat on their wifes and I can never understand why these women ever loved such arseholes. Why is it that good men find it difficult to find good women and vise a versa . I hope your not hurting too much, What else can I say sorry.

Answer 7

Read the book Happiness Sold Separately by Lolly Winston.

Answer 8

if we catch him cheating we confront the situation right away, and tell him how much this has hurt u, than wait for him to respond, if he is truly repentant, and wants forgiveness and it hasn't been a pattern of behavior in the past, than seek therapy. if he is not sorry, and tries to lay the reason he did this on you, than there isn't too much we can do about it, but stand up to him, and let whatever will be, just be. yes u will be devistated for awhile, a broken heart takes time to heal. but u can't allow him to get away with it, just because u fear abandonment.

Answer 9

Stand up for urself girl..ur Not his dorrmat and u wont be treated that way!!
If he has cheated on u then that is the ultimate betrayal!! Relationships are sacred and he has thrown that to the wind now!!
Kick his *** and just hope to god u dont have kiddies to this guy, if u do then stay strong for u and them!!
Ive been there and done it, its now easy with two littlies!!

Take care and good luck!!
Remember, dont be afraid to ask for help or a shoulder to lean on!! :)

Answer 10

HAVE you caught him, or are you just suspecting? Or do you THINK you caught him? Make sure you have cold, hard evidence first before you decide anything, whether it be to confront him or see if it's just a fling. My advice is to talk it out--there should be no secrets. Just don't forget to listen to HIS side of the story, too.

Answer 11

He's an AZZ O! (hole) and u need yto cheat on him to get him back. If u hate that idea which i can see y get out the divorce papers and get on with life. Otherwise convince hes cheating girl to stop seeing him AND BACK off lol GOod Luck!