Young, Miserable, Love. Please Help!?

Question

Im 11 but in insane, psychotic love with a 14 year old. we used to be friends, but rumors have gotten so out of control that we became awkward and i am pretty sure he hates me by now. i hurt everytime i see him and he ducks everytime he sees me. we mostly try to avoid each other but it doesnt help that we sit next to eachother in math. and that we both got into a drama club at school. it really really sux. i want to commit suicide right now. what do i do??? =(-_-,)=

we r in the same math class cuz i skipped a grade and m in 7th and hes in 8th grade. i skippd a grade in math and he is just in regualar 8th grade math. and no im not smart.

the rumors started bcuz my best friend told this really stupid guy in our class that i liked the 4mentiond guy. he then told all of his friends, and since the guy i like is one of his friends, well, things get around.

NOOO EMILY/AMERIE I M NOT CHOOSING YOUR ANSWER CUZ IT WAS CRUDDY!!!

Answer 1

DO NOT KILL YOURSELF

in a couple of years, you will laugh at yourself. please, take the time to ENJOY being a kid, you are only 11 years old for God's sake! Everything takes time but it gets BETTER, I went through it all just like you a few years ago, and I am glad I never committed suicide. Please, think about how bad the problems REALLY are and how bad you make them seem in your mind...and you will realize things are just 'okay' and you have plenty of reasons to be alive...and ending your life over a boy is just not worth it, when you could meet a wonderful guy anytime in the future, who loves you and makes you WANT to live! :)

Answer 2

First of all, you articulated yourself better here than most of the 16 and 17 year olds who post, so congratulations on that. That being said, you're only 11. I'm not going to sit there and tell you that you can't have strong feelings for someone at that age, because you can. At 12 I was head over heels in love with a guy in my class. He didn't have any interest in me, and it hurt me pretty badly. But trust me when I say that the hurt will pass. Young love is real- it's just very, very different from the love you will feel for someone as an adult. You will probably always remember this guy- but you will get over him and you'll be just fine. I'm 25 now and I still remember my "first love," and I feel richer for the experience.

Answer 3

You are just a child at ll. What is happening to you is you are having a crush.This age is called the Age of Pijmples. With the pimples comes adolsence .The urge to mimic the grown-ups,if only to escape being called children, is almost primordial. One boy I new(hardly 12) had a crush on his cousin who was approaching 20. She who had passed through this stage khew the symptoms. She humoured him along for some time and when she caught her proper guy eased the boy out gradually showng disinterest. The boy passed through the same phase as yours. But once the pimples subsided he got over this despondence and even wondered how he was so foolish. Of course pimples have nothng to do with this change. They only indicate a stage in development.You will also pass through this.It also seems that you are not concentrating the job proper for this age--the studies. Turn your attention to them and concentrae. The feeling will pass over Some day you both can even meet as good friends and ev en remember this phase and even laugh over it.

Answer 4

Yikes! You married your first love. Biggest mistake most people can make is to marry the only "proper" relationship they have ever had. Because it is their first love they worry about hurting other people's feelings etc then end up putting the life the really want on hold thinking this is what normal people do. And for most their first love is just someone they "settled" with to thrill their teenage kicks. (note I said MOST not all) Just going to put your relationship aside for a sec. I can shed some light about traveling. It is possible to travel at your age, but it is by far glamourous. I knew someone who had traveled most of the world by the time he was 23 . . . but he was living in hostels, living out of his backpack, and had to get low paying jobs (cleaning, waiting, call centres) everywhere in order to "survive" . . . and the most his relationships ever came to were one-night stands and fwb. So if you want to travel on a budget then this is as glamourous as it is going to get. Again your relationship aside for now - To travel and have a good lifestyle doing it then it takes a lot of work and savings before that can happen. As for your husband then I would personally say just get out. You're not happy. I can tell just by reading what you have written that there is no love there. You just want to give up. You were too young and naive when you got engaged and didn't have the gall to say "no" and to be honest he sounds like a decent guy do you not think he deserves to be with someone who really will love him? Staying in a one sided relationship is probably one of the most callous things you can do to a person. But if you want to TRY and make your marriage work then go to marriage counseling. Should you guys get a house together and you still really want to travel then why don't you look into getting on the airlines? I know people who have worked as Air Stewardesses (myself and my aunt included) and if they have a flight, say, from England XYZ Airport to Rhodes and there is no flights coming back that day, then the stewards basically stay over until the next flight going back to England XYZ Airport . . . and you could be waiting for a few days. Though you will need to work for this, a lot of air stewardesses have degrees and associates degrees, and the ability to be able to speak a different language helps too. Plus you have to fit all the physical requirements too. The latter might not be what you want to do but unless you want to live out of you backpack in hostels, and want a house and a relationship at the same time then beggars can't really be choosers.

Answer 5

Chill out, relax, and forget junior high drama for a sec. You don't want to commit suicide over some guy, for sure. Just because you're only 11 doesn't mean that you aren't in love, but you do have to talk to this guy.

Answer 6

Ur 11 u don't lub him n if u commit suicide ur retaded cuz ur family,frendz n a bunch a ppl r gonna miss u!Ur even gonna make da guy hurt cuz he might think u killled ur self because of him! O yea n ull get over him its just a crush. everybody gets over there childhoood crush sooner or later but dey do.The only person ull ever fall in luv is uir husband or wen find dat 1 special lub. Lub happens after being wit that special person 4 a long time!

Answer 7

You're only 11 years old. Your feelings will change about him, I promise. The other day I was looking through my middle school yearbook showing my husband the guys I had crushes on. He pointed out that none of them even look like "my type." (he thinks my type is him, haha). Your taste will change. Look at your taste in clothes. Think about something you wore 3 years ago that you LOVED. Doesn't look so good (or fit) anymore? Yeah, that happens with guys too. I recommend waiting until high school before falling in love. I fell in love in HS and got married a week after I graduated. Already my taste in guys has changed, only now I'm stuck. Don't let that happen to you. Find out who you are and what you like, THEN let guys into your life.

Answer 8

You think you will ever end up with a 14 year old since your 11? I was 14 just last year and a lot of 11 year olds like me. Girl he wants a girl atleast 13.

Answer 9

What you need to do is find out who started the rumors! Then talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Then ask him how he feels. If he feels different about you now start out by being friends and let things happen with the flow of your alls life. But killing your self will not help this problem. Be strong, I know that is had to do, but I know you can do it. Hope things get better.

Answer 10

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