I'm depressed, what can I do to stay calm?

Question

I'm still not an adult and I've lately been very stressed. Some of my friends are being majorly aggressive and mad (not just at me) and I almost lost my temper in study hall today. What are some ways to keep calm without doing yoga or buying some $100 book and video?

Answer 1

A $15 dollar bottle of Jack Daniels should do the trick..drink till you pass out,you feel better after you sober up .

Answer 2

Deep breathing is always helpful. Take slow deep breaths and try to focus solely on your breathing. This will get your mind off of your problems and calm you down. My therapist has me do this all the time and it works but takes practice. In general, I'd say go to therapy. I love therapy and it is so helpful.

I know when you get depressed you tend to not enjoy the things you used to but maybe find a new hobby then or do something you enjoy. For example, I like to draw and write and when I'm depressed I generally don't feel like doing those things but if I make myself do it I generally end up feeling better. Staying active is definitely key to beating depression and I know that is way easier said than done. Keep yourself busy how ever you can. The thing about depression is that it only gets worse the more you sit and ruminate on it. Do something. Do something nice for someone else or better yet do something nice for yourself. Go take a bubble bath and paint your nails or something. Go get a hair cut or a massage. Be nice to yourself. And if you feel totally overwhelmed and stressed out don't be afraid to just go to your room, lock the door and relax. Be it with deep breathing or whatever. A nap can work wonders sometimes too. Try reading or something. Don't read anything serious or depressing. Just get a fiction book or something funny or even a magazine. It helps to get your mind off of things.

Make a list of the things stressing you out and then calmly try to come up with a sulotion for each thing. Take it one thing at a time. So you're still in school, right? If you have an exam to study for, a paper to write, and a bunch of other little assignments, prioritize with what needs to get done first. Work on just that and try not to think about the other things you need to do. Work for ten minutes and take a five minute break to do something more fun and then get back to work and do this until the work get dones.

If it's family and friend issues, try talking to them about what's bothering you. If they get mad or don't understand, realize it's not your fault.

I'm probably around the same age as you and all so I know it goes. e-mail if you'd like. I admire the fact that you don't want to go running to medication. There are so many other steps one can take to beat depression. Best of luck to you. And do know that all of the things I've listed have worked for me and most of them a learned from therapists and whatnot.

Answer 3

Honestly I suffer from depression and there not really a "thing" to help it. You mostly need a series of different things to help. But other than medicine the best things is find someone who understands and it doesn't have to be a therapist it could be a friend or family member and vent. You have to get your emotions out of you because keeping them bottled up just hurts you more and people around you. You can also try the breathing and thinking about fragments of you life that make you happy. But I believe in my personally experience that venting is the best cure.

Answer 4

Oh my gosh I had that problem when I was in school. If I could only go back. First of all get in your head who cares what other people think. Stay away from negative people that is your problem. I guarantee it. You need to figure out what is right from wrong and go with your feelings. If these so called other friends of yours does not agree with you then dump them. Find things to keep you busy and stay away from them. While you are at school just walk the other way. You will be the better person by doing that and in the long run you will feel so much better about your self. Do not let anyone rule your feelings. You are your own person and you need to stand up for that. If they are your true friends they would stand be side you. You need to get inspiration in your life. Find a Church group with your age. You will not believe the difference it will make in your life. Trust me been there . Once you are out of school you will go one with your life and you will look back and wonder how you could have let someone else control your feelings. Stop it now and get Inspiration in your life. You will feel so much better about your self.......

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Chosing between aggressive responses and assertive responses takes practice. Our nervous systems actually have to have that practice to find the calm that you seek. It takes a long time, too. But, every time you're in these kinds of situations, just remember it's good practice. There's never a grand moment when calm sets in. We earn it a little at time over our lives by staying in the fray of life and taking those educational bumps and lumps.

Answer 6

Well, if your friends are the problem, then go out and meet someone new. Anytime you're depressed, the best thing you can do is talk to someone, anyone. It can be a pet, friend, counselor, anyone. Another thing you can try is writing your thoughts in a journal. It tends to be a very creative outlet. For stress, you should try snapping a rubberband on your wrist, but not very hard. It may sound wierd, but it works.

Answer 7

It doesn't really sound like your problem is depression so much as anxiety (although the two can be similar). I would suggest you see a counsellor rather than trying to get information via Yahoo! Answers. Most high schools have counsellors on staff to help you. If they do not take you seriously, talk to your family doctor. He or she can refer you to a specialist if he or she feels that is the proper thing to do.
If you feel you really can't handle things by yourself, then please don't feel embarrassed to take this step! It could help you out more than you think.

Answer 8

deep breaths; close your eyes and think of something pleasant, like a child or a family member that you are close too. Try to just remember that this moment is only a tiny fragment of your life and it will pass. i know its hard, i suffer from "moments" like that but these things seem to help me. Also tell a friend that you trust about them, so that when you are having one you can call/ text them for support. good luck.

Answer 9

Eat a banana every morning, they have some of the same ingredients as prozac. Also look into the medicine called St. Johns Wort, its all natural and can help with stress.
Personally im just afraid of anti-depressants thats why i like St Johns

Answer 10

Get away and do some physical activity that you like. Even walking is good. Also, cut out the caffeine and cut down on sugar. They add to stress.