iv known this girl for 2 years now nd have only just started seeing her as more than a friend during the summer. iv been thinking about asking her out but i am afraid of being rejected. Somethimes i get the feeling that she likes me cus we did hav a moment where we kissed in the summer but then at times she seems to be ignoring me as i can tell from her body language. dnt no where to go from here any advice appreciated.
2006-11-10 08:30:27 · 21 answers · asked by Dave17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she likes you. but she doesn't want to act needy. :)
2006-11-10 08:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what it would be like if roles were reversed, put yourself in her shy shoes and think about how you'd like things to happen.
Letters are great with shy people, a lot more thoughtful than a text or email and show you've gone to a little trouble.
Shy people don't like confrontation, they don't like to be put on the spot so say what you mean in a letter, as a few questons around how she feels about you, how you feel, etc.
The tell her you'd like to meet in a couple of days for coffee and chat, somewhere quiet where you can talk and there will be nobody sat next to you listening in.
This will give her chance not only to think about her feelings, but give her time to prepare her answers which will make her more confident, she's knows what she's going to say.
Make the meeting seem as casual as possible taking the sting out of it, and just be prepared it might not go your way.
You can also give her the option to write back, an easier way out of a difficult situation.
2006-11-10 08:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With shy people it is hard to tell what they are thinking. I'm shy myself. She could be playing hard to get and doesn't want to act like she likes you. You had a moment, so there must be SOMETHING between you. The good thing about her being shy is, the whole world won't suddenly know about the rejection, and she would probably let you down gently, but still be friends. I say, give it a go...just tell her you have feelings for her and find out how she feels. I'm pretty sure she may have them back...
2006-11-10 08:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that kiss freaked her out and she is scared to take it to the next level because she likes the way it is now. She probably dont want to loose your friendship and she is scared that if yall get into a relationship that it might turn out messy. I would talk to her though and tell her how you feel. Maybe she just needs some clarification about whats going on and about all the feelings getting tossed up in the air.
2006-11-10 08:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all you can do is tell her how you feel. And if she does not feel the same way about you then at least you will know it was not meant to be and hopefully find the right girl in the future. Because if you put it of any longer you will only end up hurting your self and getting over her will be even harder.
2006-11-10 08:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never beat around the bush,If you fancy someone just come right out and say so .Never be scared of rejection.If rejected just say ok and walk away.Women do the chasing a;ways remember that.I asked a woman round recently to my place for dinner and when she said NO .I replied "so you've heard about my cooking then"forced a grin and walked away.Most important thing though ,no hard feelings
2006-11-10 08:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by paul t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Grief, what is with you people. Talk to the girl for goodness sake. She may be waiting for you to say something. Better do it now before some other guy does and you regret it the rest of your life.
2006-11-10 08:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her mate. go out for a few drink, tell her u like her and think u could work as a couple. she likes u if she kissed you. shes prob not ignoring u, maybe thats her shyness coming thru. maybe she doesnt know what to do next?
go fer it!
2006-11-10 08:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no it mite b harmful 2 ya relationship but i believe in the truth so i would just ask her out otherwise u mite never no?
2006-11-10 08:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by brihoppo1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is she the kinda girl where she hook up wit differnt guys, then she doesnt like u.so forget her,but if she the kind that is sweet and nice?then u should def, ask her out and talk to her and tell her u interisted.
2006-11-10 08:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by *~Love?~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has anxiety issues. She is nervous and frantic about this situation herself. She doesnt know what to do, you need to just let her know exactly what you feel about her. She needs to know for herself too, just becuz she may not know where you guys stand either...just like you dont.
So, just sit her down and let her know exactly how you feel about her...she cant ignore this, becuz its DIRECT
2006-11-10 08:33:42 · answer #11 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋