I am 37 weeks pregnant... I am not married to the baby's father however we do live together (Please no rude comments). Would you give the baby the fathers last name or the mothers?
Just wanted some opinions here
2006-11-10 08:17:26 · 34 answers · asked by Shaunna H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just so yall know... I want the baby to have his name and he wants the baby to have my last name.
2006-11-10 08:36:34 · update #1
One more thing... neither one of us is going any where... we will be together, however I am not sure when or if we will ever get married.
Also, there are times that I do answer to the fathers last name now
2006-11-10 08:42:48 · update #2
give the baby your last name,if you get married later on you can amend the birth certificate,i gave my son his dads last name and wished i didnt,drs.teachers will call you mrs .whatever the babys last name is,and it will hurt after awhile and people will think you might not be the babys mom cause of the different last names,iv been thru this for yrs.if the dad wants the baby have his last name then he should marry you too
2006-11-10 08:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by sandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position--I am divorced and still have my ex-husbands last name (which is also the last name of my five year old son) so I don't really want to change my name and make my 1st son feel left out. And I don't wanna go back to my maiden name because my father and I have never been close. So the way I see it ...this beautiful little boy growing inside of me deserves to know who his father is whether we decide to wed or not...this is only my opinion. I'm just saying, I know how you feel..this has been a real conflict and a real hard decision for me too. If you need to talk feel free to e-mail me. Good Luck
2006-11-10 08:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's typical to give the baby the father's last name, unless you're not sure whether you'll stay with the father for a long period of time.
I guess the major thing to consider is whose health insurance plan is going to cover the baby--having the same last name as the parent whose health insurance he/she is going to be on will probably make the paperwork easier.
2006-11-10 08:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married and living with the father and plan to give the baby his last name. But really it is up to you.
2006-11-10 08:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by lindsey9180@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being married or not doesnt mean the child doenst have a dad that is willing to accept full responsibility on the child. Besides you guys live together. I would use the father's last name. He will always be your child no matter what last name you use.
2006-11-10 08:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would give the baby the father's last name. Especially if you think you will be getting married.
2006-11-10 08:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by pinkzebra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the father is going to be on the birth certificate you should give him the father's name. Additionally, If you don't plan on staying with his father, then having his last name will help him find his dad when he gets older and wants to get to know him.
2006-11-10 08:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by norman j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not yet married to the father of my daughter (23 weeks preggo, whee!) and we probably won't be before she is born, but I am still going to give her the father's name.. But then again, we are getting hitched as soon as his ex-wife stops dicking around.. So my situation is a bit different I guess.. And 2 of my younger siblings have two different fathers and they each have their father's last name. I personally would, but that's just me. Congrats!
2006-11-10 08:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fathers, you will have alot of explaining to do when the baby gets older.
Plus if you want to take things further do the right thing and give the baby the daddys last name its just traditional.
2006-11-10 08:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by crystald 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Latin America (not assuming that is your background) the mother last name goes last and the father's last name is a second middle name. I am a total whitey, but that is the case with me. I have my mother's maiden name as a last name (She eventually married my father and changed her name, but now they are divorced, she changed it back and remarried my evil step father),
I am glad I have my mothers name because it is shorter and has a nicer sound.
Go with whatever sounds the best!
2006-11-10 08:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋