My husbands been kind of down lately so I suggested we go to the zoo as a family - just me, him, and baby. Well, this lady called up this morning who I thought was his zonah which is like a female escort and asked to speak to my husband. Well after a few minutes he got off the phone and said he needed to go see her and I was like can't you see her tonight after the zoo and he was like no I really need to see her now and then he told me she wasn't an escort but his mistress. I started crying and said that I really wanted to do something with him today and he hugged me and said that he loved me and he would take us out to dinner tonight so I got a little happier. I asked why he had to see her now and he said it was because he hasn't had sex in a few days with him being gone on a trip and me being on my period. I know men have sexual needs but do you think there is some way I could get him to start thinking of his family first? Thanks for any advice.
2006-11-10 07:55:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What???? Oh my goodness!!!!! I know this is a joke.
2006-11-10 07:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hope this is not true. I can't even imagine why you are putting up with a man that is CHEATING on you-and doing it openly. It sounds like he has your permission. What kind of life are you exposing your baby to? If you have a daughter, she will grow up thinking that this is normal and all men should have mistresses. If you have a son, he will also grow up and disrespect his wife by doing her the same way you are being done now. Imagine how a daughter-in-law will feel-oh that's right just like you do now.
If he really loves you he would not have this other woman. He needs to grow up and keep his pecker in his pants. It is now time to be an adult afterall, he has a child now (one that we know of anyway). I hope you decide that you shouldn't have to live like this and leave his dead beat butt. Best of luck to all of you.
2006-11-10 08:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a hard time believing that this story is in any way true. If so, you need to think hard about what you want out of life and why you are willing to spend your life with a man who puts his needs above yours and your baby. In no way shape or form would I EVER let my husband take on an escort (whore) because he needs sex on a daily basis. That is what I am there for.
2006-11-10 08:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are kidding right? What are you thinking? Get rid of him, he doesn't care about you or your family. He sounds like a scumbag who thinks of noone but hisself and his needs. Please give me a break. Why would you even put up with this behavior? This will not be the last time, I'm afraid. I hope he is using protection so that he will not bring some kind of funk home to you, that is, if you are crazy enough to even sleep with him. I hope he hasn't already given you something. Good Luck and get smart.
2006-11-10 12:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Debcee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen your other questions...and I've also seen your answers to other people's questions...and let me tell you, even though I'm wasting my time saying this...you're living in a warped fantasy world, where you think the man is always right, and you have to be a slave to him. Or you've got a very weird sense of humor. Either way, go get therapy and leave this jerk of a husband you are with. Maybe then you'll wake up to reality.
2006-11-10 08:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uhhh...if this is all true, you've got bigger problems than trying to get your husband to go to the zoo.
It sounds like you have a man who doesn't understand that marriage entails sexual fidelity. No man's sexual needs are so strong they justify adultery.
From what you've written here, it sounds like you've got a man with real problems with intimacy and self-control.
Why do you stay with him when he treats you like this?
It sounds like some time apart to allow you to develop some assertiveness and some boundaries is in order.
2006-11-10 08:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your ok with your husband having a mistress more power to you. the point here is that you & the baby should be #1, nothing else. If you can respect his lifestyle, because actually he is having his cake & eating it to. Why not give you what you need. Good luck sweetheart.
2006-11-10 08:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to get rid of her. By having a mistress he's not only disrespecting you but putting his family second to his sexual desires. If it means going to marriage counselling then do it. You can't allow this anymore. What if she gets pregnant? What if she asks him to leave you? You should never be comitted to someone who isn't comitted to you.
2006-11-10 07:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey do you mean to tell me that your husband told you verbally that he was going to see this woman. And you knew he was going to have sex with her? Now I have to ask why in the hell are you taking this **** off him? He don't have no respect for you or your child. You need to leave him and soon as possible.
2006-11-10 14:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by tessie35 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about getting a divorce. Your husband is a butthole and if he is stepping out on you, he doesn't love you. If he lets sex interrupt the time he has with his kid, he doesn't love him/her either. He is not a big enough man to think with the brain that God gave him which lies ABOVE his manhood, so find yourself a man that values, loves, and respects you!!!
2006-11-10 08:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should show him all the other questions you've posted here, and when he realizes what a sick individual you are, he'll seek help for you and the family. That would have him putting you first.
2006-11-11 01:01:54 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋