Ok, when we first met we were having sex all the time! A few times a day! Now, we're married (I'm 22 and he's 24) and we have sax maybe every 2 weeks! I'm very attractive so that's not it. (He doesn't even want me wearing skirts because of the way other guys will look at me)
I'm very sexually frustrated! And please don't give smartass answers!
FYI- he's not gay, he's not cheating. He spends all of his time on World of Warcraft(an online computer game). I'm in the Air Force and work weird hours so I work when he sleeps and home when he is home. He doesn't have time to cheat.
I asked him last night why he doesnt want to have sex and he just said "I dont know" so I left it at that.
ALSO, at night I like to just hold "it" but he doesn't like that. Is that normal? (eventhough for a 24 year old guy to not want sex from a hottie is not normal, I was just wondering)
2006-11-10 07:31:36 · 34 answers · asked by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been married over a year.
2006-11-10 07:33:31 · update #1
Mr Cool- He has nothing really to be stressed about. He gives me his checks and I take care of all bills and organizing his school- he's going back to college next year. I make sure everything is in order. (except the house) his laziness has rubbed off on me and the house is a mess!
2006-11-10 07:38:34 · update #2
I've tried playing WoW but my laptop couldnt do it
2006-11-10 07:53:37 · update #3
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...
sometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.
i think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...
and about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.
Good luck to you and your hubby...
2006-11-10 09:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by SiStaH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First don't fret. Most guys go through a time that they distract themselves from life. It is a tendency to take the edge off stress. Try doing strip teases or even plan a night/day where you both can talk about it. If you go to outside help first it may confuse the issue. I have been married for 2 years.
2006-11-10 07:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by david_pugsley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's what I suggest. First, you gotta sit down and talk to him about it. If he tries to end the discussion, let him know that you're married now and communication is more important now than ever before. Just ask for the truth, tell him your concerns and ask him what you can do to increase his drive.
Second, tell him to get off the damn comp! UGH! Go out and get a hobby, man!
Last, don't be so arrogant about your appearance. It's a major turn-off to everyone. If your attractive, that's fine. But don't you think we all know he's attracted to you, considering he married you and all?
2006-11-10 07:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not Normal when I was 24 i wanted To Hit Everthing I Could. he Need's To stop Playing Warcraft and Start Paying attention To you.
2006-11-10 07:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by bob r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has major problems with his identity. Perhaps you have assumed the leadership role and He has retreated into the fantasy game world. Remind him that taking care of You is one of the top things he is supposed to do just as you take care of him. If his performance has not be substandard then why he turns down sex is far from normal. If he has problems satisfying you then that could be a reason he declines it. Feeling inadequate often leads to abstinence.
2006-11-10 07:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is so not normal. He is 24 and doesn't want to have sex! I know either he is on the internet playing more than games or he is gay! If you go out and buy yourself a vibrator and let him watch, and he still doesn't get excited something is definitely wrong! Maybe it goes a little deeper that he is not aroused maybe he can't get aroused!
2006-11-10 07:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, another victim of the World of Warcraft... LOL I dunno, I can't blame him, WoW is a lot more fun than sex, I too play it more often than I care to admit.
But seriously, I don't know why he would suddenly lose interest in sex. I could see if he had never had it (could be a medical problem), but a sudden loss of interest is baffling.
My husband isn't interested in sex, but he's always been this way, I think even in his younger years.
2006-11-10 07:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The computer is his problem. WOW is a very addictive and "endless" game. My advice: Take the computer outside and run over it with a car. Then tell him if he doesn't get the point you will leave him.
He is stuck in artificially stimulating environment and will wake up from it someday after its too late....
2006-11-10 07:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you don't want the truth you defending him like you got the answer.so i have a question for you,how do you know that he is always home sleep,how do you know that when your at work hes not at that older guy bob house.its not normal for a any guy no matter the age to be around an attractive woman that holds his dick at night and turn it down.to tell you the truth us real men don't even need a girl to hold it for us.something is wrong and you need to open your eyes.
2006-11-10 07:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
World of Warcraft: Killing sex lives since 2004.
Are you sure that he isn't cheating? Most of the time, a man's sex drive seems to diminish in a relationship because they are getting sexual gratification elsewhere.
World of Warfcraft is known for draining the players of any need of fulfillment offline.
2006-11-10 07:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jocelyn 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋