My wife and I have been married for 3 years, and I love her very much. The problem is that we are both starting to get fat. She is a beautiful woman and I tell her all the time, but I am having a more and more difficult time with my poor self image and her flabby belly. Am I just a peice of ****?
2006-11-10 07:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't tell her you think she's fat. Tell her you are uncomfortable at your weight and that you want her to exercise with you because you want to spend more time with her. If she mentions she has a weight problem then you can say something about working together on it.
The Cooking Light magazine someone else mentioned is a great idea!! Good luck!
2006-11-10 07:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by honey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No your not a piece of ****!!! u cant feel that way about yourself. lots of things about people cahnge as they grow older and grow 2gether. If u and your wife love each other u will b with each other no matter what. But if u yourself feel uncomfortable with the few extra pounds start exercising more often and eating healthier. And tell your wife that u would appreciate it if she could support u in this new project of yours and I promise u that she will b right by your side and she may even join u exercising.
But u cant beat yourself up about that situation because that does not help it. u have 2 act on things like this, but if u 2 truly love each other unconditionally then size shouldnt matter all the love u have 4 each would make that a blind sight. But 4 u 2 b comfortable with yourself and if u feel its neccessary 2 lose a little weight then u go 4 it, but dont push your wife if she feels that she is fine. That can make her feel that u r losing interest in her and u dont want her 2 feel that way because thats not healthy 4 the relationship
2006-11-10 07:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should suggest that you start exercising together and eating healthier. What ever you do don't tell her she is fat. Tell her you need to shape up and would like her to join you for support and her overall health as well. She should be willing to do that. Also remember that you are both getting older and the older you get the harder it is to stay thin. Try some new recipies for dinner together or try a new restaurant with healthy food. Make it something you do together and I think it will all be fine. just don't attack her about her weight and she shouldn't attack you either.
2006-11-10 07:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about joining a Ballroom Dance class together, it's more fun than going to the Gym and it will get the two of you out more and enjoying something new to the both of you. And besides, the more you two do it together and get better at it, you'll wanna go out and show off all the wonderful moves you've learned together, and you'll want to dance at home and this will keep the two of you active and doing something you'll both enjoy while keeping in shape.
2006-11-10 07:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by bdancer43 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are both getting heavier, I would suggest that you both get a gym membership together. Make it fun, it will be great to have each other as a support system. Bring it up easy, just say, "Honey, Im concerned about our health and think it would be benificial to both of us if we started going to the gym together." I dont think she should be too offended. If she doesnt want to do it I wouldnt get mad at her though. Just love her. Good luck. And no this doesnt make you a bad person.
2006-11-10 07:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by spiritfilled_daughterofzion 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you guys join a gym together as a Christmas gift to each other? Subscribe to Cooking Light. Tell her you want both of you to be healthier so you will be around for each other. Being at a healthy weight is not just about looks--you will feel better about yourself, have more energy, and live longer.
2006-11-10 07:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
perhaps your weight gain is the result of you having a poor self image and not the other way around. often food is used to comfort oneself. i would not suggest to your wife that she do anything un less she has expressed dissatisfaction with herself. just tell her how you are feeling about yourself and see if she will help you make lifestyle and eating changes. she will need to make a decision about her weight independent from you. helping you to change may help her an awful lot especially if you change how you eat it will change how she cooks and the foods that come into the house. Walking is the best exercise and perhaps you can get her to walk with you, just for company. saying i love you but your belly bothers me will create alot of resentment.
2006-11-10 07:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by guidance246 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's good that you are noticing and possibly want to do something about it. Start by doing small changes in your diet. Don't use as much butter, replace sugary nutritionless snacks with more natural snacks (veggies/fruit), broil meats instead of frying them, stay away from fast food etc. Take baby steps so it won't seem like a huge change.
2006-11-10 07:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by 7aliens 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Help begins with admitting you need Help!
Go see your Doctor for a health check-then a Dietitian and seek some form of Exercise regime to help regain your self Confidence and Physical prowess!
2006-11-10 07:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not start an exercise program together. That will enable both of you to be easier to look at and help the two of you share an easy success. Instead of being negative about it look at ways to improve things.
2006-11-10 07:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋