this question is for women (not girls)?

Question

how did ur view about men and your behaviour towards men changed across time?

Answer 1

I was unlucky when I was younger to have immature and selfish men in my life. That caused me to feel mistrustful of them in general, and my attitude toward sex became, "Are you done yet?"

Now I have a man in my life that has taught me that there are men who are thoughtful and generous when it comes to relationships. I no longer have to fear judgment when I make my opinions known. I now look for opportunities (anytime/anywhere!) for sex because he usually puts me first - he says that makes it better for him.

Answer 2

I have seen across the board, from my own experiences as well as those of my sisters and close friends that men we have come across have the tendency to try to get away with as much as they can. Cheating, Lying, Drinking (no I'm not drunk) and the rare occasion of dating a Married man and not knowing hes married until the relationship has moved to a level where he could no longer hide it (started sleeping with him, or his feelings for them were stronger than he could bare n he couldn't take the guilt anymore.

If this is all you hear and see, you get extremely discouraged. I am not saying its everyone because I don't judge everyone by the few that have caused me pain. I am mature enough to know the difference.
Seems now only because its allowed by so many men and women that cheating is the norm. If people don't stand up for what they beleive in, people will continue to do it and get away with it. I personally abhor cheating, even if your just dating. I won't stay in that type of relationship but some people do and its more difficult for others. Just my opinion. GOD BLESS!

Answer 3

Well, as you probably know yourself, experience is the only thing that can't be bought. So, in this case it is time and experience that brings change in all our views and of course in our behaviour. Since my first relationship, I have grown more mature, less naive, more careful about men and relationships. A few dissapointments can really make a woman see what real life is all about. Knowing what I am worth and asking for it, has changes the way men perceive me as well. I am not about to be stepped over by anyone just out of fear that I will be alone. it is better to be alone but content with your life than being in a relationship that is synonumous to compromise...

Answer 4

For as long as I can remember I was a bit feminist with regards to my views about men.
I would always say "Men do this... Men do that.. All men bad..." etc.. The usual, things that we hear daily.
Then I realised that some out there are actually good so that wasn't fair to brand them.
Then I met women who all men allegedly wrong and I realised that no woman was perfect.
So eventually I stopped using male/female barricades and started seeing the person.
Instead of seeing a man I saw an individual.
Not because Jerry hurt you, John would do the same.
And likewise with women.
I learnt to respect alot of men who were doing it for their family in spite of the "torrential" mates that they had.
I saw that most men don't psycho-analyse everything the way most women do and often times we fault them for not thinking ahead.
But truly at the end of it all, its not about casting blame but about helping each other to grow.
I used to always see men as selfish, but when I think about situations and in comparison to my demands, I'm really the one who's being selfish.
Because of these discoveries, I recognised and acknowledged that each man is his own person, not necessarily categorised by some invalid stereotype.

Answer 5

Wow, Good question. I use to feel that all men are the same because i use to have a very tough time with them. I wasn't judgemental at first. But gradually i became convince that they were. I would give my all and sacrifice so much but always in vain. But I finally understood that only ignorant men would do terrible things to women. I no longer say all men are the same. Because not all women are the same. I have seen things that women do and sometimes it is just a bad as what a man could do to a woman, or worse. One day my brother came to my apartment with his best friend. His best friend had tried very hard to be with me for years (but i always turned him down0. He was with his new girlfriend. While my brother was talking to some of my friends, the girlfriend asked me outside because she wanted to talk. While talking i was shock at the words that were coming out of her mouth. She told me that her boyfriend bought her this car and pointed to it, and said as soon as he puts it in her name she is gonna kick him out. She told me she was gonna take him for everything she can. I ask her how long did they go together. He had known her for a month. I saw that women can be as DANGEROUS,and UNCARING, as SOME men. So the POT cannot call the KETTLE black.

Answer 6

Because of bad experiences in the past, I honestly don't trust many men anymore. I used to be relaxed and trusting towards men, until I was cheated on and beaten and raped. I am not sure if that was your question directly, but that is how I changed.

Answer 7

Great question! I'm 28 now and married 1 year -- I was 20 when I dated the first guy - he was 19 and innocent, sincere, sweet. It only lasted 4 months. Then I jumped and dated a guy 14 years older then me and found him very slutty and only interested in sex. At 21 I dated a guy 15 years older who was divorced and very jaded by it. I was deeply attracted to him but he couldn't commit - couldn't even introduce me to his family with the huge age difference so our relationship was purely sexual and eventually, I ended it because it wasn't enough for me. Then I met a guy 7 years older then me who fell in love with me like no one else had - but the problem was I didn't love him quite as much. We dated 2 years and I finally told him I just couldn't marry him. Less then a year later I met my now husband - who was everything I was looking for in a mate - and I'm so grateful for him in my life.

I go on an individual basis - each guy has been different in good ways and some in bad.

Answer 8

My view changed because the men changed. If the man didnt change, then neither did my view towards them.

Answer 9

That's a tough question. I think I have always wanted and expected too much but I'd like to think I've gotten a little more understanding over time.

Answer 10

Honestly my opinion went from boys are so cute.... to Men are so immature. Now I still feel that way, and my husband is 30. Someday he will grow up. I hope.