Do I deserve this punishment?

Question

Im a 13 yo girl. My mom makes wear bras that give much support and cover, says I need them and in part she's right. But I don't enjoy them, especially in Australia's heat. I wishI could wear other bras but mom is stubborn. We had several arguments over this, I got grounded a few times. Monday I really lost my temper , got scissors and in front my mom cut up the bras she gave me, I know this was wrong, apologized but my mom got REALLY mad at me. Punishment: She took me to a lingerie store and got me those bras called long line that covers all of your torso and have 10 hooks in the back, all of them made of very thich material. I'll have to wear them till Jan 15th, EVERYDAY,They are kinda uncomfortable, much orse than my other bras. I gotta wear all the time, except in bed. Dont you agree this punishment is too harsh and unfair? What do I do now? They make me sweat, hate them!

Answer 1

Well....as a mother of a 13 year old I'd have to say that your mom is trying to prove a point. First, you DO need the support and coverage. Support for your growing breasts, coverage so those teenage boys don't have anything to see. Secondly, do you know how expensive bras are? Wrong choice to cut them up and especially in front of her - I'm sure she works hard to provide for you. The bras she bought you? Hmmm.....I think she's showing you that there are a lot worse types of bras to wear and you should count yourself lucky she's not expecting you to wear those forever. Wear them for now, but when it's time to purchase new ones, perhaps suggest a compromise - sports bras. They support and cover. Next time - don't be such a stubborn young lady and LISTEN to WHY she wants you to wear them......then ask her to LISTEN to YOU and work out a compromise. Good luck.

Answer 2

Thats unfair you need to by your own bras on the low. What you should go is get the bra of you choice and have it under the bra you are suppose to wear so when you go out somewhere take out the bra your mom wants you to wear. I think this punishment is unfair we have a right to wear what we want.

Answer 3

I see two sides to this. One, personally, I think that you shouldn't have to wear something so uncomfortable for you, yet if your mom got you bras that were appropriate and were trying to get ones revealing then thats something different.

Second, bras are very expensive and to already buy them often as you are growing is bad enough (not to mention the shopping part to find them). You really shouldn't have cut them up in front of your mother or at all!

I guess all I can say is act mature and learn your lesson and plead forgiveness?

Good Luck

Answer 4

I don't know why you need such supportive bras at 13 unless you are more fully developed than most girls this age. But cutting one up in front of your mom was not right. She worked hard to buy you those and probably is trying to spare you from sagging boobs. But, I do believe the punishment was a little too harsh. 2 months is a long time to wear something that may as well be called a corset. good luck

Answer 5

I hated wearing bras at that age, too. You were right in telling your mom that you did not like them and wanted to try a different kind. She really has no right to tell you what kind of underwear to wear. You were wrong in cutting up the bras, as bras are expensive.

I think punishment is a bit extreme. If I'm picturing this correctly, it is similar to a corset; corsets are dangerous to your insides if they are worn often. However, you should probably calmly wear them for a couple of weeks, and then tell your mom that you realize now that you acted innapropriately (even though you already apologized) and you would much prefer to wear the old kind of bras to the new ones.

Answer 6

That's a very unfair punishment. It sounds to me like your mom is a control freak. If you can, save up enough money, go to
Victoria's Secret or whatever, and buy some bras you like. Also make sure that you talk to your mom about the reasons why you cut up the ones she got you, and why you might like to wear different ones. Good luck!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

just go out a buy a new bra. or cut the 1 she bought so its comfortable lol. u can also borrow 1 of ur friends or just wear tanktops that hav a built in 1 so u wouldnt need 2 wear 1

Answer 9

Thats a very odd punishment. Why would a mother do that? I understand she wants you to support yourself, but making you even more uncomfotarble doesn't sound right. I don't like to give out advice like this, but I say you should refuse to wear them at all. She may be your mother, but it is borderline child abuse to make you wear something that is causing your body to be uncomfortable. She can't physically force you to wear them either. If she tries to force them on to you or hurts you to put them on then that is abuse and its not a good thing. That is your body and your chest and you need to be comfy with yourself to be happy. She needs to help you find bras that you like, not what she thinks you should wear. After all she's not the one who has to wear them, you are.

Answer 10

Follow her instructions and maybe she will let you off punishment early and get a different bra.

Also ask for something to do so you can pay for the bra you cut up.