At what age is a good age to...?

Question

Start talking to your children about sex, or more importantly SAFE sex? I have 2 boys ages 10 and 11. Now, I was thinking that this might be a good time to START the conversation, but you don't want to start too young and inevitably encourage the interest too soon, but in this day in age, this stuff is happening between kids much earlier. You also don't want to wait too long, or especially until it's too late to talk about it. Any opinions on when you should start?

Answer 1

I'm probabily going to get a lot of "thumbs down" thingys, but I think now is a good time, take a look throughout the questions on here, you see 11 and 12 year old girls asking how to tell their moms that they are pregnant!

Answer 2

Don't have "The Talk." That's intimidating and uncomfortable, no matter what age your kids are. But, do bring it up--just don't make it into a HUGE deal, as they will tune out. Age 11 or 12 is a good age to mention it once in awhile. I knew MANY kids in middle school who lost their virginities at age 12. (Sick, I know.) 10 is a bit young.

This is what my mom told my brother: Don't have sex unless you are 100% okay with having the girl be the mother of your children and 100% okay with having her in your life forever.

Answer 3

I think that when they're about that age, the school would send you a consent form so they can discuss the issues of puberty and sex with your children. That kind of takes a lot of stress off of your mind. When I was in 5th-8th grade, they did that each year.

Perhaps you should wait until spring to see what happens. If not, have the talk then.

Answer 4

When you're watching TV and you see people kissing is a good time to start the conversation. Just say something like "wow, they must really know each other well because we don't kiss anyone unless we know them really well." Kind of go on from there talking about what you feel comfortable with. Remember that you have 2 ears maybe your boys have something they want to say. Listen listen listen.

Answer 5

Right, now is a good age to start. I talked to my boy about sex when he was 10 years old. Now, a days you seriously have to because they are starting in the 6th grade and girls are developing faster and boys are noticing more.

Answer 6

I would start talking about it now with them. You wouldn't believe how much kids know about this stuff already now-a-days. My brother is 15, and I cannot BELIEVE 1/2 the stuff he says to me about kids in his grade and friends. You want to get the right information out to your kids, not by what all their little friends are going to tell them. Good luck!

Answer 7

Ever child is different. You need to talk to your kids on a regular basses to find out if they are already thinking about it. Some times simple asking them if they are hearing about sex at school it the best approach. If they are it is time to start talking to them about it.

Answer 8

That's a tough question, especially when they are that young. You might want to bring up man/woman relations little by little just to at least see how much they already know. Then you can appropriately adjust to how much or how little you want to explain to them. Or just sit back and look for signs that they are actually showing a genuine interest in girls.

Answer 9

yes the best time to start talking to them only when they show some interest on that..if you find they are being interested slowly..i feel you can surely go up and talk to them..or..you can be good friends to them..right from the time when they are 10 -11 because..they start growing all the curiosity towards all that you know..if you get close enough to them n win on their trust they will be finding you very dependable and will depend to ask all their queries..so you can start talking to them freely enough..
I feel you definetely should try win on their trust..you care for them you keep yourself aware of all they do n like doing...and you can advice them on that...if they find..mama papa are caring n they always feel about n care about what we like n do..they would obviously come looking for u..n that way u can get close to them..n even be there in every need of theirs..

so
Best of Luck
cheers

Answer 10

I started the "talk" with my son, when he started asking questions. I didn't get into much detail then (he was 7), but at 15 now, we talk about all kinds of stuff! It's amazing what they hear from their friends and such and how wrong it is!