She can't bear us all living in the same house. Should I chuck her out?
2006-11-10 06:47:13 · 36 answers · asked by Josephine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL, after reading your previous questions on here I just have to laugh. In one question your'e talking about your wife, the next you husband, your toddler, now your 21 year old.........
Very entertaining questions (at least some of them) , bet your'e laughing your ar** off reading the replies.
2006-11-10 06:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by IC 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious!? No wonder she is upset.. you do have every right to be happy but marrying a boy (at 19 he is not a man and will change over time) half your age will eventually end in tears - yours not his.
I can understand the being in love means that at the moment you feel it was meant to be, you've never felt this before yaddi yaddi ya - usual tosh that loved up people think BUT you are a mother and as such you should NEVER EVER EVER put a partner before your child.
Not saying don't do what you want to do but at least understand your daughter has a right to be unhappy about it and to voice that - do not throw her out in any circumstances (she will be there when it goes pear shaped and is your blood) but try to make peace with her meantime.
Sorry to be so harsh but as an older gal myself I cannot for the life of me understand how you can see a relationship with a boy as being worth throwing out/away your daughter.. it is madness.
2006-11-10 07:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its understandable that your daughter is upset, this man is young enough to be your son and she obviously feels uncomfortable with a boy who is only a tiny bit younger than her to be living with you as she probably feels uncomfortable with the idea of what you both get up to!!! and how could you abandon your daughter for a man that's really selfish and by the sound of things you obviously don't no him 2 well if you met him on holiday. either way its your choice but u will put your daughter through allot of pain, maybe you should talk to her about how u feel
2006-11-10 09:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by x_luv_u_lots!!_x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surely, don't you see it as absurd to marry someone younger than your daughter? how desperate are you? Your daughter is right and you will end up the loser in the long run. She aint jealousy of your catch but morally she is thinking maturely than you, the mom.
Another point is that your man will pester her as well and if she submits then you will be in trouble as your relationship will be on the line. You can't throw out your daughter because of a man who is young enough to be your son. How old are you anyway? You must be double the age of your daughter and it's a shame.
2006-11-10 07:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven;t said how long ago you met him, but it sounds like things are happening pretty fast. Maybe you should slow down. Your daughter is right to express her concerns, and if she has been working and helping with bills, she has some say-so in the living situation. Even if not, blood is thicker than water.
2006-11-10 06:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down & talk with your daughter & have her explain to you why this upsets her. If you are set on marrying this man, that is your choice. It's not a matter of chosing family over a relationship. She is always going to be your daughter no matter what. If you want to have any kind of relationship with her, then talk with her. Explain to her why you are wanting to marry him & that you just want her to learn to come to grips with it. Your relationship with this man shouldn't directly affect your relationship with your daughter.
If your daughter still refuses to accept it, then she is the one who needs to deal with it. I wouldn't "chuck her out" per-say... but just allow her to make her own choices. If she chooses to move out, then so be it.
2006-11-10 07:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you chose a man over your daughter? You need to talk to your daughter about what is bothering her not just chuck her out!
2006-11-10 06:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well def: do not chuck your daughter out,look at the bigger picture just for a moment,ask yourself how serious is this 19year old about you and where can you see it in say five years time.Your daughters feelings have to have an ear from you too.
2006-11-10 06:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Hopper 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh, no! don't mary this guy, neither of you love eachother. remember your daughter will always be there, he wont. now i'm not saying break off what you have, just don't say "i do" now i know it's the best sex you've ever had, and he really does care about you. but remember; he is young and inexpirenced, and has a hot older woman after him. life falls out of focus under these conditions. don't marry him, keep your daughter, and just keep lettin him **** you, because you both enjoy it. i'm 21 i've had hot older women after me, and it's great! just live by my rule "i'll stay as long as it's good"
2006-11-10 06:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by hero08291997 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so wrong he could be your son and your daughter is older than he is that is wrong what is wrong with you and dont put a man in front of yor daughter when the man gets tired of you and leaves you your daughter is still there come on check yourself before you wreck yourself and the relationship between you and your daughter.
2006-11-10 06:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by babyspicesag 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You want to marry a guy who is 2 years younger then her? How desperate of you. You sound like a very selfish person. It's time to grow up - NEWS FLASH: LIFE IS NOT SOLELY ABOUT YOU, YOUR WANTS OR NEEDS. I hope your daughter has the good sense to move out - she deserves so much better.
2006-11-10 07:05:58 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋