What I mean is that the heterosexual monogomonous ideal - man+woman completely in love is often a fallacy in that many men whilst not admitting it to their partner still letch after other women both in their 'real' life and more often than not porn collection.. yet women often seem oblivious to this..
Evolutionary psychology for example might explain the male 'always on the look out' phenomenon as something many men are genetically programmed to do..unlike women to some extent who have more of an interest in not only being more choosey but in attaining and retaining the affection of one mate who will invest in her and possible future children..
Why then do men not admit to this widespread practice and why do women often believe their bloke is the exception to the rule in that unlike the majority of others he only has eyes for her?
In turn meaning that the ideal is just that and not the norm?
2006-11-10 06:43:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Should add - do not mean that they are all unfaithful - just that they cannot perhaps help being on the look out..
2006-11-10 06:52:07 · update #1
Is the default thought we all have of judging others by our own measurements. If we're uncapable of doing something, then we tend to think others are the same. Especially if it's our significant someone. But then we wake up abruptly to the reality that others ARE capable of doing what you wouldn't dare and more. Slap-in-the-face Welcome-to-the-real-world. Perfection doesn't exist. But we have the freedom to tolerate what we can put up with and reject what we can't.
Men can say we can't forbid them to do crap since they're free and old enough to decide. Same way they can't force us to accept what we don't like since we too are free and old enough to decide.
Is a matter of mutual respect and communication. And the maturity to admit to things (which many men lack and some women too). Forcing a relationship they both know is lost from the beginning is stupid. Oh! and believing the promises of a guy that has issues is the worse mistake. It's just a facade to get to you.
Those are my two cents.
2006-11-10 07:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by M'lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like my man to have a wandering eye every once an a while. It lets him know how good I look compared to those other girls who have the nerve to look back! Anyways, as long as he looks and does not touch, we are ok. I can look at as many men as I want to. We are all human. And just because we think another person is attractive, doesnt mean we are not in love still.
2006-11-10 07:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by nicoleware623 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, we agree that we are generalizing here, on the borderline of OVERgeneralizing, and that not ALL men cheat, right? OK. Given that, we can say that more men are unfaithful to their women than the other way around. OK. Too many women are too trusting and naive, right, and that makes them vulnerable. We are not only the "weaker" sex in some ways, but the more "human" one, and often our compassion and trust and other such admirable qualities are taken advantage of by a gender not evil, but certainly more apt to selfish self-satisfaction than we...
2006-11-10 06:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mistress in Chains 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are the same.
They both desire love and affection from that one special person and a future with them and children and all that jazz.
They also both look around at what else is out there.
The number of females viewing porn and having addictions to porn is on the rise every year.
2006-11-10 06:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by BoredomStrikes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think what is even funnier is that you are completely not mentioning the fact that women do not always have eyes for their man. Women check out other men and or women on just as frequent a basis as men do.
2006-11-10 07:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no women actually believes that what they do is called disassociation they just put the truth at the back of their mind. and men well we are animals who have evolved and every animal a lion for example mates but will always try to mate with some other lion two its instinct.
2006-11-10 06:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by jenkay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know my man fantasies about things and that is OK,as long as it is just fantasying-i don't not believe everyman is "programmed to cheat"or anything like that-if you have a good one than trust in that ,cant always live by studies and facts,just live life one day at a time and deal with it as it comes.
2006-11-10 06:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ideal is idealism.
not reality.
we live in an idea of reality.
we believe that our reality is everyone elses
because life itself is an illusion.
in essence we are projections of our own illusions
psychology can point the way, but only we can make the journey of self discovery.
when ultimately we are able to truely know ourselves,
psychology will no longer define us.
2006-11-10 06:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope people don't believe that. I mean it would be nice and sometimes it's necessary to say it to yourself so you don't go crazy jealous. But realistically, we all look at other people, even think about them sometimes. I know my bloke isn't the exception to the rule, but he's not going anywhere because he looks at other girls, just like I'm not because I look at other men.
2006-11-10 06:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by KeM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He most likely is not gay but bi I would say. I have to say that I know where he is coming from. I do not say it to her as we are having sex but sometime I think about having a dick in my mouth or even having one in my a*** before we have sex like when we are working up to having sex. I love her more than any thing and would do anything for and do what evr I have to to stay with her I love sex with her. It must be my femanine side that would like to try all that
2016-05-22 03:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋