would you hit your child because he or she didnt make their bed? or because you asked them to do the dishes and he or she didnt do it? my mom does. she hits me for the stupidest things.would you do that to your child?
2006-11-10 06:43:23 · 18 answers · asked by {.:*jugurl*:.} 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have two children. My 8 YO I have never spanked (hit). I spanked my 13 YO only one time, and it was because she didn't get out of bed when I told her to do so on a school morning, and I wanted to impress upon her that I was not going to get into the habit of nagging her when it was time to get up. In any case, disobedience is not a "stupid" reason for punishment, it is a very sensible reason. Start demonstrating some maturity both by doing what you are told and also by accepting responsibility that getting punished is your own fault.
2006-11-10 07:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe the punishment should fit the crime and in the Bible days children who dis-obeyed their parents were taken to the city gates and stoned to death. In the book of Proverbs also in the Bible you will find scripture after scripture how to raise your children,spare the rod and spoil the child came from there, you didn't hear children back talking their parents like you hear today and that is why.Children do not respect their parents like they did back then and for the record the parents were not as they are today.In most households you have both parents working and they aren't around to over see if you made your bed or not.You didn't say how old you are so that makes your question more difficult to answer.God gave us rules and boundaries for all our living and every since Eve dis-obeyed in the garden of Eden there has been nothing but dis-array ever since.That is why we have the 10 commandents to live by to show us how to live and get along with no arguments and non respect between parents and children.Respect is something you have to earn before you get, a swat on the bottom is not child abuse contrary to what is being said and done today, that is why so may rude children are going around embarrassing their parents all the time.
The kids are running the house hold instead of the parents like God intended. Times have changed and we have to go along with most of them, but the basic ones do not chavge about child rearing.If you look in the book of Proverbs in the Bible you will see many many scriptures that pertain to bringing up your child.In your situation how many times have you been asked to make your bed or do the dishes? Over and over or just once? Besides life is to short to fight about making a bed, just do it and forget it,same with the dishes, just do as you are asked and help out,why should your mother have do it all? Just start doing what she asked you to do and I quarantee you may even get some extra allowance to go to the mall with.
2006-11-10 07:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by dchilders_ministerofmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't believe that inflicting pain solves anything. It teaches kids nothing! Spanking is not illegal, however hitting is. I believe when nothing else works then maybe a spank on the rear wouldn't hurt but I have never and will never do that to my children. Especially for the petty things!
2006-11-10 07:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever bad happened to me I still remember. And never ever can do to my child - even raise the voice or get angry. I want them to love me not hate. The child is child and to learn doesn't be punished.
2006-11-10 06:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO I don't believe in that and when they are young a spat to make them understand seem to grow with them so that beatings are strong hit is not needed they just listen.
2006-11-10 06:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Hitting is NEVER allowed no matter what the circumstance is. My daughter NEVER does what she is told sometimes..just taking something away from her that she likes is punishment enough!
Again...NO hitting....NEVER allowed....and if this is something that happens regularly may I suggest you talk to someone about this?
Let us know what happens...concerned now... :(
2006-11-10 06:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Brokenconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she whip you when u do something you were supposed to do and didnt or does she beat you? theres a difference. if you act like a bad kid and dont do what youre told, you deserve a little punishment. and theres other things she could do like grounding you, and taking away things you like. no child deserves to be beaten
2006-11-10 06:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by i_like_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not hit my children to discipline them but I will punish them if they do not do their chores or do what was asked to be done. Hitting is unnecessary and there are other forms of discipline.
2006-11-10 06:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no! Unless I have told them to do it like a million times and they just either dont listen or dont care. but if its like the first or second time and they just dont get it. I would use the "exchange technique": If you dont do this/that... I will then take away your..(add here something they want/like/I provide)
2006-11-10 06:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO DO WHAT YOU ARE ASKED AND YOU WONT GET HIT IT IS NOT A MATTER OF YOU DOING IT OR NOT IT IS RESPECT AND YOU SHOULD HAVE MORE OF IT IF YOU ARE GETTING HIT THAT MUCH JUST DO IT AND YOU WILL SEE THE DIFFERENCE THEY MIGHT EVEN LET UP A LITTLE YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO YOUR PARENT SAND DO WHAT IS ASKED WHEN THEY ASK AND DO IT TO THIER SATISFACTION
2006-11-10 06:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋