my brother in law wont move out?

Question

About a month ago my husbands brother asked to stay w/us for 1 week till he got a place of his own we didnt want him to but said yes. After 3 weeks he still was there he never cleaned up after himself ate my food (im pregnant) when he would take a shower he would leave it black. I had had enough when my husband started drinking w/him everyday we started having problems and my husband lost his job. His stupid brother never offered to help pay 4 anything. When I told my husband I didnt want his brother there he had nothing to say. I went up to his brother told him off put his stuff by the door and he still didnt leave I dont know why i wasnt brave enough 2 kick him out. My husband got a job w/him and 1 night didnt come home i threw his brothers stuff out in the front yard and the next morning I guess they both picked it up i feel my husband has choosen his brother over me I havent spoken to him in 3 days and he missed my 1st sonogram im really depressed should i leave

Answer 1

U certainly have every right to do what u did. It is your house too and since your husband wasn't willing to take care of the matter, someone had to.

U shouldn't leave just yet. Let your husband come to his senses and wait for him to come home. U certainly don't owe him any apologies for something he failed to take care of himself.

Answer 2

Talk with your husband. Have a long sit down conversation with him & tell him he missed your first sonogram. Tell him how he's making you feel. Ask him if he is still wanting this relationship. If so, then counseling should follow. There's a reason for everything & getting to the root of the issues is what it will take in order to fix these issues. As for the brother in law... that's tough. What to do.. I could think of a million ways to get rid of him..(none being very nice).. but in reality, the only thing you can do is talk with your husband & tell him this has gone on long enough. That you don't want him to stay in your house another day. The brother -in- law has taken advantage & will continue to do so until he leaves. If he continues to stay & your husband doesn't kick him out, then don't continue to clean up after either of them. Go stay with family or a friend for a few days. If when you return the house is a pig sty, then you pretty much know where you stand in your relationship with your husband.

Answer 3

Oh my gosh, what a mess you have here. Your husband sounds almost as immature as his brother. Yes, darling, you should leave. It's the last thing I would suggest to a pregnant woman, but if this guy can't keep a job or come home when he's supposed to, then he's not really ready for fatherhood. And he would be hurting you a lot more down the line and becoming a terrible example for your child.
Show your child, through actions, that you are a strong woman that knows her worth. You deserve so much better than this.

Answer 4

No Troubled, I wouldn't leave:you did the right thing the first time, or was it the second. This time, pack their clothes, set them by the door, call the police and tell them what's happen and what you intend to do, have them send a car over at the time they come home, to stand by, nothing more.
Tell your husband that he's welcome to his brother, cleaning up after him, cooking for him and, maybe when you have the baby, his brother can help with the child support since he feels so close to his brother, see what he says. Good luck and sweetheart, don't back down, he doesn't deserve it.

Answer 5

Stay out late a few nights. Go to a movie every night for a week. Have an old grade school guy or a counsin he doesn't know call you on the phone. He will soon see the light

I wouldn't leave. That would be a gift to him and his brother.

Also, invite frrineds over for dinner parties around them. Laughand have a good time.

Answer 6

That is bad, But hopefully your husband will come around. I have found that 2 families living under the same roof is very difficult, especially when it's family. Give him an ultimatum...Me and the Baby or Your Brother! I had to throw my sister out but I wasn't just dealing with her being lazy, she is mentally ill on top of it. It can be a stain on a marriage. Put your foot down, if the husband goes with him then he must not be too dependable either and you don't need that around a baby either...Your First priority is that baby your carrying...and you don't need this stress...take care of yourself.

Answer 7

leave that way your husband is forced to make his brother help out with the cost. do not go back home until the in law is out. they r both taking advantage of u. u do not need the stress.

i was going to say to be rude and throw him out, but that will not work unless your husband backs u up.

Answer 8

I remember somebody asking the same question, but from the other perspective "My Sister-in-law wants me to move out..." You should find that answer.

But if it is your husbands family make him deal with it. Or you move out for a while. Your husband will either come to his senses, or you'll be rid of two morons!

Answer 9

no thats an over reaction. you need to take your husband out for a beer or whatever and have a long talk, tell him how his actions make you feel . then togather you need to tell your bother he has to be out by a date you set. neither your husband or your bother are very mature and you probably can't fix that all in one day. you got other family members who would help like offering for your bro to stay with them ? You got to learn to stick up for yourself without becoming a angry crying whinning *****.

Answer 10

I remember this question from a few weeks ago. Your brother in law NEEDS TO LEAVE IMMEDIATELY and your husband needs to stop catering to him and keeping him there.