Whites: do people with darker (brown or black) skins make you uncomfortable?

Question

From what I observe around me, that seems to be the case. It also looks like you have to make your best effort to hide such discomfort.

If so, why do you feel uncomfortable with dark-skinned people around?

Answer 1

I feel uncomfortable around people who are judging me just because I'm white. You don't think people are picking up on that? Maybe that's why they seem nervous.
I find It odd when someone looks surprised when they find me talking to them and treating them just like the next guy. They sometimes say "are you talking to me?". They look puzzled because they find it strange. Works both ways.
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Answer 2

I don't feel anything but that is just another human.. Do darker skinned people feel uncomfortable around lighter skinned? I don't know if so.. But I've never felt uncomfortable at all. Sorry some people can't get over the fact that people are equally the same and only only different by the color of skin in this world. It's a shame I know.

Answer 3

Very very good question.

Not easy to answer because it does seem to spark a racist attitude, but honestly that is not the reason for it in some cases.

I think what you see and feel in a large portion of the cases is an unjustified racism. These people have been raised by their relatives to hate and for this I consider them to have sick minds.

When I was growing up our next door neighbors were "Afro-American". That was the term used back then. My best friends were these neighbor's kids. We played cars in the dirt and walked to the grocery store together... etc. I grew up in an all black neighborhood.

As I grew and went through my 20's I suffered, over a five year period, several incidents of violence at the hands of black men. In my 40's now this has made me uncomfortable around black men until I get to know them. Black women do not make me uncomfortable like this.

You can consider this racism, but I disagree with you. Due to the events in my life I was conditioned to be this way. I did not grow up in a household with racist attitudes.

Oh.... I forgot to tell you.... I'm black. Go figure!

Answer 4

Alike attracts alike . In my opinion you only feel comfortable with what you know ,its the same for all ethnicity's . Just try changing this question around and ask would black feel uncomfortable seeing whites . The answer is yes if you do not know them or have an emotional attachment .Hostility can be felt as a non verbal cue and that is what you are projecting out and that's what they can pick up on hence uncomfortable feelings both sides

Answer 5

If i was put into the middle of a group of coloured people I would be extremely nervous. Living in an area where there are relatively few coloured people there is no implied concern as they would be in the minority and my comfort zone would be unhindered. This fear is not out of racist attitude but has a sociological aspect. The immediate responce would be due to the visual appearance. Being white skinned I would not identify with coloured people because the skin tone instantly highlights our differences. As time went on the skin barrier would be diminished and interaction would allow us to become aware of similarities which in turn reduces our fears. Through time the colour of skin is not an issue. However, interestingly, in times when people face bad housing, poverty and resentment, the colour of one's skin again becomes the immediate factor which divides people.

Answer 6

We sometimes find that we do. We're not racists or anything, but we worry that there will be something we say or that we'll do something wrong that will offend the other person. We may be nice, accepting people, but that is a sore spot in our society. Sometimes I think we try so hard NOT to be racists that the effort blocks out the actual getting to know the person. We're just trying too hard. For us, it's the same thing with homosexuals and bisexuals: determined not to discriminate, and don't, just a bit lost as to what to say. (By the way, my own father is brown-skinned, and I love him very much. It's just that the one ISSUE is touchy for everyone.)

Answer 7

Actually I think that if you put a lighter skinned person in a crowd of brown or black people , I have found that they tend to be more uncomfortable. I used to work in Watt, Lynwood, Compton, California and I loved working with the black community. I am no longer in the area but miss my friends, ( Who Just Happen To Be different than me ) I get uncomfortable with any aggressive people who force their ideals or concepts on me. I hope you are open minded to the fact that not all people are racist or prejudgment's. Thanks

Answer 8

It seems American Blacks who are darker skin feel more self conscious than darker Blacks from other countries ie: Africa, Cuba, Puerto Rico,consequently because of the racism in this country. I prefer lighter skin Blacks as to not have to deal with there hang ups and defensive attitudes.Yet I will accept people whoever they are.

Answer 9

Since you suggest that Americans rape the citizens of other countries and European Jews are not real Jews in other posts, and other such nonsense, maybe the problem is that you have a hostile attitude. Nobody likes someone with a hostile attitude in their midst.

Answer 10

Question 1: No it doesn't in the slightest.

Question 2: I don't feel uncomfortable around people of other cultures and races.