WHAT is s good way to off yourself? I am too miserable.?

Question

My husband left me six months ago for another woman. He won't file and divorce and I can't afford a lawyer ( I have consulted ten). I hate being in this limbo and I hate not seeing my kids everyday. He gave me the "It's not you, it's me" speech. My friends are sick of the crying. Has anyone been through this who can offer some hope other than "things will get better?" Did they get better for you? How? If they don't, I don't see the point.

We split having the kids but I don't see them everyday.

Answer 1

My husband left me for another woman - only I took custody of our child. I know what it's like to feel like you don't even know which way is up. I know, for me, I laid around and cried ALOT. "Offing yourself" is not the answer. While I know how much your hurting right now, your kids still need you. Do you really want that to be the last thing they remember about you? No, I know you don't. First, you need to realize that you didn't do anything wrong. Your husband broke your wedding vows, not you. As far as your divorce goes - you might check into representing yourself. I think places like Office Max sell do it yourself legal forms. You might also try looking on the web or see if you have any free legal services in your area that can help you out.

I wish I had the magic answer that will make you feel better, but unfortunately, it just takes time. Think about your kids and live your life for them and for yourself. Eventually, the pain will go away.

Good luck.

Answer 2

i really do understand this, and feel for you deeply. If there's no custody arrangement then he has no right to take your kids away. If you've consulted 10 lawyers, you know that you can file for divorce yourself but when kids are involved it's very important to do it right.
My advice to you: your kids will never recover if you off yourself. If you want to walk up to them and put a gun to their heads and pull the trigger, that is almost the same. You would be subjecting them to a life of unimaginable pain if you do that. You are better than that.

go to your city's information center and find out hwo you can get help with this for free. There should be some way you can find a public defender or something... anything is better than offing yourself.

Answer 3

Do you have family that could help with the cost of a divorce? You've got more free time with the kids gone part of the time so work OT or get a second job with all the money going towards your divorce.

Killing yourself is selfish. You escape and your kids and family go through hell.

Your husband left you. Now fight back!! He's being a jerk and you need to show strength and win by taking control and filing first. Make it a goal to get the money.....put 100% into it. You will look so strong to your kids and they will look up to you.

Perk up your appearance, take control,and make this guy regret everyday that he hurt you!!

Things won't just "get better". You are going to MAKE them better. You can do this...make your kids proud!!!

Answer 4

Check with the County Clerks office about filing your own divorce papers. If they don't have them, ask where to get them at. Make sure you get one to restore your legal name (should you choose to do so) & custody papers. You can choose to file for Sole Physical Custody of your children. Filing them yourself will save you a boatload of money instead of going through expensive lawyers.
It sucks he left you for another woman... & I know it's very hard to see any kind of light at the end of the tunnel, but think of this... where would your kids be if you left forever? How would they feel? How would they cope with it? This will sound very harsh here... but.. it's time you put your big girl panties on & deal with it. Being depressed isn't going to help you, & offing yourself isn't going to make it any better.. besides what if you screwed up & became bed ridden but still able to comprehend what's going on?.. Then where would you be? More miserable than right now. So... it does get better.... the pain does ease over time... the more you dwell on it, the fresher it is in your mind.
Do what you have to do & wipe your hands of him.

Answer 5

I am going via the identical factor, my youngster has additionally recentley hit my sciatic nerve and that i cant do a lot due to the fact that of having dizzy and center palpitations. But i watch television alot, and take a look at to spend alot of time with my household and boyfriend due to the fact that i do know time can be confined whilst the youngster arrives. My recommendation could be to do matters correct now that you recognize you wont get to do whilst the youngster's right here.

Answer 6

If your husband left you, you can always try and contact the courts and explain your situation. Maybe you can file under some kind of desertion law. I am not sure where you are from though. Contact me if you want to talk about it more. [e-mail]

Answer 7

Bobbie: I don't know where your from but, if you can't afford the attorney, your husband has to at least foot some of the bill and just why and heck has he got the kids when he had the affair, what did you do? give him everything?

I don't know your full situation but somethings amiss here.

Answer 8

there's no good way to off yourself
they're all messy and just ultimately take you away from the ones you love

there has to be a pro bono lawyer in your area that will file the necessary paperwork for you

Answer 9

mam you justgotta pray about it really hard and give your problems to the lord!!! ALWAYS REMEMBER THE LORD DOESNT PUT ANYTHING IN FRONT OF YOU THAT YOU CANT HANDLE!! Prayer changes all things...just have faith...what more do you have left?just trust in the Lord.. God Bless you