My cousin is angry at me for an error in judgement on my part.
We are like sisters and now she won't even talk to me. I have apologized all over the place, yet she doesn't wish to have anything to do with me. I know I was wrong , I admitted it, yet she just won't forgive me. She has a past of holding serious grudges and I am afraid my error (showing up drunk at a family function which I promised and vowed never to again, it is unlike me anyway) she will hold this grudge forever and I feel so very very guilty and heartbroke. How or even can I fix this? Apologies no longer are working, acting like nothing has happened is not working. any advice would be appreciated..
2006-11-10 06:01:28 · 8 answers · asked by Kay M 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You've done your part. Now it's up to her to do hers.
Sounds like you're the more mature out of you both.
Just give her time, and by all means, forgive YOURSELF.
Okay, you made a mistake. Crap happens. We all make mistakes. Try to move on and just don't let it happen again.
You did the right thing.
2006-11-10 06:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's what you did but that you did it. She probably lost faith in you. Give her time to get over it. If you have apologized and have owned up to that, then leave it alone. She will come around. If not today,one day. I applaud you for acknowledging your mistake. Most people don't. Maybe what you did reminded her of something someone else did to her in the past and that's why she has trouble forgiving. Let her digest it. She will eventually see the light. Good Luck.
2006-11-10 06:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by SCORPIO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your cousin is very disappointed in you..especially since you vowed never to do it again...yet you did. She is hurt that she cant trust in you enough to kno that you wont emberass yourself as well as the rest of your family. what you did was wrong and im glad you realize it but the only thing that you can do to rectify your relationship with her is to prove to her that you truly sorry actions speal louder then words...obviously the apologies arent enough for her. you have to help her gradually gain your trust back. until then shes has no choice but to hold a grudge cause she has no concrete proof that your worth her forgiveness . prove her wrong and if you need help with your drinkin get it family is all we have in this world and a buzz from a few drinks isnt worth ruining all of that.
2006-11-10 06:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by odugurl03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i i have come to understand that people who you cherish are hurt when promises are broken, i do know that with anger comes bitterness and it eats deep into one so i will tell you something i did when faced with a like situation, pray it is the best solution you could ever have,your cousin could turn up and say she has forgiven you but in her heart of hearts each time a situation of trust or promises though not voiced a suspicion will be there, so talk to God about it and with time you will see the difference and while you at it ask God to also help you out in keeping your side of a bargain. Hope this helps bye
2006-11-10 06:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by rich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already apologized and she is not choosing to forgive that is not your fault. She is going to have to learn how to deal with the way that she is acting, and you will have to learn to let her deal with it. She will eventually get over it, it is not the end of the world. You can tell her that you understand why she would be upset and that you are sorry, but if she continues to act the way she is acting you are going to have to be the one to let it go and move on until she is ready to forgive and forget, and just remember no one is perfect, ever her.
2006-11-10 06:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sailor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 08:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apologised. That all you can do.
Forget about it.
Small loss.
I have not spoken to my cousins in over 20 years, nor have they tried to contact me.
No biggie.
2006-11-10 06:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Chris C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her, kiss her milion times and tell her: " Please forgive me, I don't know what I do, please forgive me, I can't stop loving you"
2006-11-10 06:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by kate789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋