im pregnant at 14 years old and dont no what to do?

Question

i havent told anyone because im scared theyll make fun of me .

Answer 1

message me.
my sister is the same age and she's pregnant too.
i won't make fun of you.
i promise

Answer 2

Depends what you want to do:
1Abortion
2Have the baby and keep it
3Have and put up for adoption
1. Some places all you need is parents permission to get an abortion, others you can't under 18 or 16. That would make it a lot less noticable to everyone around you; but you'd be killing an unborn baby.
2.Having a baby would be very noticable to others and most likely they'd be proud of you or make fun. That would be painful, and you'll need to tell your mom and boyfriend.
3.You may regret it, but you will have much less responsibility. Your mom and dad may want to adopt it from you or take the baby until you can care for it when you're out of collage.
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Ways to tell:
1. Sit mom down in a room alone and simply say "Mom, we have a problem!" or "I think I might be pregnant".
2. It may be easier to tell first that you and this boy had sex. sit her down and try to be suttle. You may decide to tell her about the baby then, or wait until she cools about the sex.
3. Believe it or not, your mom told her mom she was pregnant once too! She'll understand. She may be FURIOUS at first, but after a day or two she'll give sympothy! She won't make you do it alone! Maybe you feel comfortable saying straight out "I'm pregnant."
4. Maybe your mom isn't as close with you as your dad: He won't quite understand, and may be tougher to tell then mom. Just think of something to say and wait for a response.
5. Write them a note.
6. "Accidentaly" let them see a pregnancy test, and hope they say something.
7. Depending how pregnant you are, and how sneeky, you could trick them into signing the abortion paperwork.
8. Nothings working out, tell the future father first, it is half his fault! He could stay with you when you tell so your mom and dad aren't as mad.
9.(Not suggested) Have a person you know won't make fun of you (even a stranger) tell your parents while your out. Stay away from them for a day and they'll be chilled out by then (more than when they just found out!)
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Hope these helped you!

Answer 3

you must tell someone you trust. Have you a good friend whose mum is nice? Do you feel you can't tell your own mum? Is there another adult that you trust who can tell your mum for you? you need lots of support, and a girls mum is often the best one to do this. Remember, your mum alrady had a baby - you - and she knows what is is to be scared and worried even with all the social supports in place. You need to decide what to do, and it is much easier if you have the love and support of close family. It's your body that is pregnant; and you must decide soon what to do. If you are considering a termination, you need to tell someone now, while it's still early days. If you considering having the baby, you still need to see a doctor, and soon, as at 14, your body is still developing, and may find the physical stresses of pregnancy more difficult. Tell someone now; that is the worst part. 14 years ago, I was in that panicked situation, although I was older than you. I rang my dad, and I told him on the phone, and asked him would he tell my mum. He was great. My lovely son is now 14, and it's been very tough raising him alone.

Answer 4

First, you need to talk to your parents! I know that may seem like a hard thing to do, but trust me from personal experience, that it is the right thing to do. Second, if you have a school counselor that you can feel comfortable talking with, then go ahead. Pregnancy brings a lot of hormonal ups and downs and you will need someone that you can talk to. Also, you are not the first teen to get pregnant; hopefully those "they" will realize that you are going through a tough time and offer you support. I realize that high school isn't the easiest place to be, but you can't let the threat of other's words push you to hide the situation. You need to see a Dr. and make sure that everything is ok

Answer 5

If you don't feel comfortable telling your parents yet, you may want to tell another trusted adult, like a school counselor. You should tell your parents soon, though, because they will find out sooner or later. Just remember that it might be really hard now and in the near-future, but everything will work out in the end - it always does! Just remember that there are SO many potential parents in the world who would be willing to adopt your baby, and there might also be other options in your state, such as legally abandoning your baby to a police officer or hospital (it's completely confidential, too) Good luck, and take care of yourself and your baby!

Answer 6

please dont think that because you are pregnant you have to have the baby. i was pregnant at sixteen i discussed it with my partner at the time he said i should keep it. i did. i havent seen him since. it is really hard work tryin to raise a child at a young age. you never have any money, no time to yourself, you look like **** all the time coz your body is not really ready to cope with the changes and you will miss out on the fun years of your life. i am twenty nine now and my son is twelve. i wouldnt change him for the world but i always wonder where i would be now if i had not had him. i would advise you to speak to your mum if you can but do what you want to do not anyone else because you will be the one left holding the baby when all of your mates are going out and having a good time. hope you make the right decision for YOU. x

Answer 7

Well, as far as the "make fun of you", you shouldn't even care about that. You are here in this world to be yourself, and you don't need anybody but yourself (pretty much). If somebody laughs or criticizes you then those are not really your friends or people that cares about you. Talk to your parents, tell them that you made a mistake and they are going to help you. They are your parents. Not all the time parents are agree, but at the end most of good parents give a big hand to their kids.

I wish you the best luck... I'm sure you can do it!

Answer 8

make an emergency appointment to see your GP first thing monday morning, you can ask to see a female doctor if you want, and they won't laugh at you or tell you off. You can take a friend with you if you really can't face telling your parents or another adult at the moment.

Your doctor will be able to talk to you about the options and help available (there is lots of help out there) and will be able to help you tell your parents when you are ready.

In the meantime talk to someone - childline are very good - 0800 1111 and will help you if you can't think of any family or friends you can tell right now.

Some nasty people at school might make fun of you. More fool them. You still need to tell someone (preferably your parents who will certainly look after you and won't make fun of you) because this is not a problem that will just go away.

don't panic - stay calm and find someone you can talk too.

Answer 9

Isn't there anyone older that can help and give you advise? maybe aunt? cousin? I know it is really scary but everything will work out fine in the end honestly, no-one will make fun of you just don't tell anyone that you don't trust just now. I think you should speak to your boyfriend and ask him what he thinks of the situation and if he is going to stand by you. You are at such a young time in your life and shouldn't need to cope with all of this on your own please go and speak to someone about it sooner the better and I wish you good luck x

Answer 10

I think you should tell your parents. Yes they might freak out a little at first but that is only cause they love you. And once you told your parents they will help you decide what to do. What ever you do don't be scared of telling your parents. At the end of the day they will love you and support any decision you make. And it will help you ease the burden you are carrying now by letting someone who loves you know. But I wouldn’t tell the guy who got you pregnant until you told your parents first. He might get angry if you decide to have the baby.

Answer 11

Honey, yahoo answers is not the place to find too many intelligent answers to that question. You need to talk to your parents or a counselor or someone who can truly help you. This will change your life. You've got a choice to make. You are bringing a human being into the world that needs love and a stable home life. Whether you choose to keep this child or maybe put it up for adoption, you are going to need the help of loving individuals to get you through this. Getting laughed at should be the least of your worries. You've got much bigger problems than that now.