What should i do about my son when my husband is a cross dresser?

Question

my son is 7 months old. my husband wants a complete sex change but right now is cross dressing. Im worried. what should i do when my son is old enough to realize this. i wonder what is going to think

Answer 1

Hmmm?

I don't know that I see the problem. What's your son going to think when he gets old enough to realize? He's going to think "Daddy likes to wear girl's clothes.", or, if the sex change has already happened by then, then he'll have another mommy, I'm assuming. Neither one is going to scar the kid, or even really affect him. If he grows up knowing that there's nothing wrong or weird with his dad doing that, then he won't think anything of it (so long as the outside world doesn't know and tease him about it). It'll just be one of the things daddy does, like mommy liking to put on her sweatpants to do the laundry or something similar, you know- just a little idiosyncracy. And so long as he sees/understands that other men don't necessarily do it, he won't go raiding your closet (unless of course he wants to, which, in that case, you can't change it). He'll grow up fine and healthy- just approach this with reason and rationality and show your son that you love him and your family is normal.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Just be open and honest with him. He will ask questions, you don't need to go into a great deal of detail, just answer his questions.

You also might want to point out that others may not understand.

By the time he's old enough to recognize gender, he will probably just need to know he has two mommys. When he's older, and has some context of the history of your husband, then you can give more detailed information.

This isn't something to worry about. A lot of kids have two mommys. I know of nine kids that have two mommies and two daddies(in one household). Bet they get some odd looks at the PTA meetings.

Answer 3

Hello, what do you mean? What should you do about your son? Your son will react how you react. If you would like your son to be hateful then he will be hateful. If you would like your son to understand then you must be understanding. Children are not born with the ability to discriminate. Parents teach them, and also society. It you put down a strong loving foundation he will follow. If other issues arise during his teen years this will be something that your husband will have to deal with. Your job is to just be there for your son.

Answer 4

until he is old enought to understand he will just emulate your reaction. when he asks questions be truthful and not take sides - he would learn to accept it.
its only other people's opinion outside home that will push him one way or another.
i'm sure no matter what happens, it will be ok if you work as a team.

as long as YOU can work on being ok, then your husband wont feel bad and your son will be happy too.

Talk to other people, there are loads of transgender support groups on the internet in all areas, offering ideas and advice on this. good luck and walk tall. x

Answer 5

If you raise your son to be an open, honest and caring person he will love his father for who he is regardless of whether or not his father fits the classic gender role.

Answer 6

he will probably be more accepting than you are,since it will all be new to him he will most likely think it is normal,What you and your husband need to do is decide when he is old enough to understand it all and sit down with him and explain it all to him

Answer 7

He will think its a perfectly valid choice for him to make and won't be caught up on gender roles OR you can teach him to hate his OR you can ask other parents going through it.

There is no one lifestyle we can live and NORMAL is subjective.

Answer 8

Teach him to respect others decisions, but still God knows how your child will take it.

Answer 9

leave him