In the night when the baby gets up.....?

Question

How many of your partners wake up with the baby or do you get up all night by yourself.?

My boyfriend is a great father but when it comes to night time, he has "selective hearing"
When i do ask him to get up he looks at me like it is my job!

anyone else?

he works, i stay at home and i breastfeed but he works shifts and gets to sleep in most times.

Sleep is only rejuventaing if it is IN A ROW so if i am really tired and he doesnt have to work that morning then i think he should get up once too!

She is 3 months old now, wont be much longer... I was just wondering what it was like for everyone else.

I believe that the man should help whenever he doesnt have to wake up early period but i can see that most people think differently.

btw we are not fighting about it, only once and he makes an effort to get up only if i really need him to

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean during the day my husband is so caring and loving and doesn't mind doing anything but, at night if the little one wakes up and I ask him to get up he has this "what do you want ME to do with her?" I usually just shrug it off to grogginess.
But do't let him get away with it, nip it in the bud now haha before you end up like me being the only one to get my tired *** out of bed. ESPECIALLY if he gets to sleep in. If you can't sleep he can't either. You're in this together.
Easier said that done.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are going through. Except my baby was almost 9 months old when he starting sleeping through the night, and I can count on one hand the times hubby got up. Same situation as well.. I am a SAHM and he works.
When Dean turned 4 months old we started fighting constantly about it and still nothing. Now I really resent him for it and don't think I will ever really forgive him for not helping. It really has caused a lot of problems for us,
I am only telling you this because if it is a big problem then you need to let him know, because I can't stand resenting my husband the way I do. I always wanted a real big family but now I don't want to have anymore children with him because he didn't support and help me.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

I breastfed only for most of the first year, so there was really no sense in my husband to get up. Also, you have to look at whether or not your partner works full time and whether you are able to stay home with the baby. I know it is exhausting to be a stay at home mom, but you can catch a little nap when baby is sleeping. Your partner has to stay alert and work all day. If you both work, and you are bottle feeding, I think it is only right that you take turns, maybe as one friend did, she gets until 2am and he gets the 2am to 6am time. Good luck and sweet dreams.

Answer 4

My bf doesn't hear the middle of the night cries, probaly cause he doesn't have the motherly instinct that wakes on a dime like I do. If she makes the slightest peep, I'm up instantly. With my bf, she could scream at the top of her lungs and he'd sleep through the whole thing. As far as getting up, if u both work then u should take turns. At night when our daughter wakes I'm the only one that gets up because he works, and gets up early where as I stay at home all day. If u dont work or have to wake up early then maybe u should wake with the baby.

Answer 5

I think its pretty normal. If he works and you don't, you should be getting up. You can nap during the day with the baby as needed to help give yourself a lift until the baby starts sleeping longer through the night. Also, if you're breastfeeding there's not a whole lot he can really do anyway, right?? Just remember, it will get better in the next few months.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Do both of you work outside of the home. If yes both of you should take turns. If not the one that doesn't have to get up in the morning. If they work second shift and can sleep in then again take turns. I did it all myself as the father left during my pregnancy. Try to work it out I have seen it be a deal breaker in some marriages, not right away but I have see resentment build up starting with this and get worse in til the marriage ends. You need to have a good talk with your spouse. If he doesn't get up can he relieve you at a different point of the day so you can take a nap?

Answer 8

Befor my son slept through the night i had to get up all th time because i breast fed exclusively. My bf would wake up at times and change the diaper and bring the baby to me. If you are jsut breastfeeding it is pretty hard for him to do anything. But if you are bottle feeding or going back and forth then make him get up.
You need your sleep to take care of little one and you need to be alert at all times. I wouldn't worry to much about it though your bf not waking up just means that you have that bonding time with your baby. email me at [e-mail]

Answer 9

To be honest with you, I'm a stay-at -home mom, so I always felt like it was my job to do the nightly feedings since he had to get up for work. However, if you both work, then you guys should definately be taking turns. When you hear the baby, give him a little nudge with your elbow and tell him nicely it's his turn.

Answer 10

Yup in the same boat my husband just turns over...... but once in a very odd while after me complaining that he doesn't wake up for teh kids and i never get to sleep in, he ACTUALLY wakes up for both the kids in the morning and lets me sleep in that's very not very often though!!! But he hardlry EVER wakes up for night feedings for the baby!!! we both work who said something about taking turns, someone needs to clue in my husband about that one!! :)