biesexuals?

Question

my friend is really thinking about turning bi and i think she is she just is afraid to say it...she has said she thought 3 girls were very cute in my school but she would not tell me the third one....if its me i will not kno what to do i mean i would say no if she were to ask me out...but im not that harsh....i dont kno wut to do HELP

Answer 1

Okay, here's the long answer:

First, I think people's gender attraction falls somewhere along a scale, with the two extreme ends being people who cannot perform at all with someone of the same gender, or on the other end, the opposite gender. I think most people fall somewhere between the two... but often, how people *act* on their mingled attractions is very different than them just *having* said attractions.

Also, it *can* take a long time for someone who is bi to admit it to themselves, because it's not socially accepted much at this point. It's even harder for male bis than females, in this.

Your friend may be bi, or she may be lesbian. Point is, does it matter? It's a friend, right? So be friends. And as for your worry that YOU are the 3rd person... well, why not try the novel approach of being straight up and honest with her? :D Look her in the eye and say something like "Hey, I've been getting the feeling that maybe you're attracted to girls as well as guys, and since you won't tell me who the 3rd girl is, I suspect it might be me. So, I'm just gonna put this on the table: you're my friend, and you'll always be my friend---but for me, I can't be anything more than just a friend... I'm just not attracted to other girls. But if you are, that's fine."

If she's a real friend, she'll respect your honesty---especially if you say all that in a friendly, caring, confident way, rather than acting all nervous.

Just be yourself, be honest and caring, and see what happens. It's the best that any of us can do.

(And yes, I'm bi, tho' most of my attraction is for males; and it took me a lot of years to get past cultural conditioning to admit that there were a few women out there I was physically attracted to enough to wish to do something with them.) :)

Answer 2

She can't turn bi, honey. She either is or she isn't. She can decide to acknowledge, accept and incorporate her bisexuality in her life, but she won't "turn" bisexual.

If she is interested in you and you don't "like" her in that way, be kind. This may be one of the first bisexuals experiences of her life and you're right, you shouldn't be harsh. If she DOES come out as bisexual, support her and still be her friend.

Answer 3

She is your FRIEND first. She is not turning bi, she is probably coming to terms with the fact that she is a lesbian. Regardless, she will be the same person that she was yesterday.

Do not be afraid of her. Be her FRIEND! Be HONEST with her just as I hope you have been up to now. She will need the support of her friends.

Answer 4

She wouldn't be "turning", she would be coming out.

If it's you, don't worry. Just say no. Treat her like you would a male friend in that situation. You'll get over it.

And be a friend to her whether she comes out or not.

Answer 5

well just play it kool! i liked my friends when i came out but now im over it, if it is u then maybe she will get over it, there is nothing u rly can do! she no's ur not that way so maybe things will work out for the best.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Are you ALL at school? Help! Any normal adult human around?