Where do you stand on gays adopting children?

Question

I am against it purely because its un-natural and will have a damaging phsycological effect on the child as they get older.

Why are people that are answering this assuming that all straight couples are abusive. Gays and lesbians are more than likely to be abusive. Dragging kids into this fight against society. Its wrong.

Answer 1

It goes against the grain of nature. There should be a role model of both sexes. 1 male, 1 female. Also what about when they get older and their school friends start to take the pis* out of them?

Answer 2

Someone's sexuality does not undermine their abilities as a parent!! To say that it will have a damaging phsycological affect is offensive and so very wrong. You are blinkered and obviously do not know anything about gay people.
Unfortunately, there are alot of children who have a mother and a father, yet they have been psychologically damaged due to one or both parents being an alcoholic, a drug addict and so on.
Equally there are plenty of gay parents who have adopted, or even had children naturally (they can do this too you know), and they have gone on to bring up well adjusted and well educated children who have gone on to achieve great success in their lives and careers. Many gays have extended families who can provide an abundance of male and female role models.
To be gay isnt contagious, just the same as it is possible for straight parents to produce gays.
Do some research. Get to know some gay people. You will see a the bigger picture. Dont always think about what they do in bed. They are human just the same as everyone else.

Answer 3

I'm all for it. The proof is in the pudding, so to speak. All the kids being raised by gay parents that I've met, are superbly cared for and well loved.
Sure, there will be exceptions. But the "exception" cases are rampant in cases of other parents too - hetero couple, single parents, foster parents, kids raised by relatives......

Doyoucanoetoo to Ladyfraser:
Thanks for taking the time to give a reasoned response to some of the knee-jerk reactions in here. I really think that while some gays will portray those who are against gay adoptions as homophobic, some of the people against it honestly just haven't really had cause to reason through the issue very deeply. Thanks for answering in such a way that it is adding to a discussion, not readying for a fight. I think it's a good use of YA.

Answer 4

In my opinion, if the child is loved unconditionally, is brought up with good moral values, is given an exceptional quality of life, then why on earth should it matter if the people adopting him are a man and a woman or 2 men? the only thing the child will remember later on in life is that he/she was provided with a loving home, regardless of the fact that the love was provided by 2 men or 2 women.
It is only un-natural is your opinion, and is viewed as un-natural because that is what society has come to believe. The notion of un-natural is derived from our notion of what is natural. An in this case society has decided that the natural is the family consisting of husband and wife.

Answer 5

Do you think life in an orphanage will produce a more well-adjusted child than being in a family where they receive one-on-one attention and love, regardless of the unconventionality? Because the majority of unwanted children are never adopted and either stay in orphanges and skip from foster home to foster home, where they never know what a true family relationship is like. I am inclined to believe that an unconventional family is better than no family at all. By the way I am straight and have no personal stake here...this is just my honest opinion from the real-life situations I have encountered. For example, there is a gay couple in my church who adopted an HIV-positive baby and has raised him into a great kid. Honestly, how many traditional families out there would be willing to do this? Added to the equation, he was an African American boy, and the couple that adopted him was white. So they were willing to go against society and form an interracial family with gay parents and support a special needs child. I think this is nothing short of commemorable.

Answer 6

I don't nescessarily have a problem with it.

Love is unconditional and if they can afford to give a loving home to a child and have them understand how society views their relationship it's not a problem.

I can see where you are coming from, but in the same token children are very forgiving and they absorb so much of what we teach them. You are taught bigotry and ignorance it's not something you are born with.

I have always had my mother and father, so it's particularily hard for me to have a family and not raise my future children with both. I feel that there is something a man and woman can bring respectivley as a parent - assuming they want to be.That's my preference and belive as it is yours to feel this is "un-natural". As long as he/she is aware that Mommy n Mommy or Daddy n Daddy are different, it shouldn't affect them the least bit. People are born a certain way and we can't change what a higher being has put before us. In this day and age nothing will shock me not even aliens come to live amongst us and/or adopt in our society.

A loving home and secure family network is all a child really needs. Let people Love, Do and live behind their closed doors. It doesn't impact my bills, how I live or work.

Answer 7

You, my friend, need some facts...

Do you really intend to sit here and say that it is MORE psychologically damaging for a child to have gay parents than to have NO parents? Or worse yet, to be with abusive straight parents? Come on...

That is simply illogical...

In a world FULL of hate HOW can you condemn love, even if you don't agree with it. Besides, gay people who want to have kids, generally have to go through A LOT to get them and I seriously doubt that most straight people could pass all those tests (that are incidentally performed by people who are A LOT more educated on the matter than you are).

Why don't you worry about something you CAN control, educating yourself!

Answer 8

First I must say that I have no problem with gay marriage , I really could care less.BUT , it's their fight to be accepted in society and it is an ongoing fight.These kids being adopted are going to be teased, you know it and so do I. Is it right?Who cares , it doesn't change the fact that kids are mean and cruel and take advantage of things of this nature.These kids should not be put in this situation , it's not their fight.
Also I remember reading a survey done on homosexual couples several years ago .They were asked if they would try and raise the child to be gay and would they hope the child would be gay.100% said they hoped the child would be. Where is the tolerance and acceptance there?

Answer 9

A lesbian woman who is getting married to her gay lover and still has the dad around on the scene has 3 kids of her own she cannot look after plus a two year old grandchild who's been neglected has recently put a roof over my daughters head which i am dead set against but because i live in the UK and my daughter is 16 and by stupid law classed as an adult has fallen under control of this woman's daughter the same age as my CHILD'S and turned her totally against me with lies and deceit and mind control they stole my daughter from me from my loving caring safe secure home.. I don't drink do drugs sleep around.. yet this so called responsible gay parent has allowed my daughter free rein to self destruct by having unprotected sex smoke drink drop out of school and throw her whole life and family away... I HATE scum like that

Answer 10

That may be your opinion, but, there are no facts to back you up.
There are about 2% of all adoptions in the US are to gay couples. I would much rather see a gay couple adopt a child who needs a family, then sit and rot in an adoption agency. I didn't realize there was so much homophobia out there.

There is no negative psychological affect on the adopted kids. Do you think the kids are going to made gay? It doesn't work that way.

I want kids to be in a loving home....that's it!

Answer 11

It is an excellent idea for them to adopt. It would give so many homeless kids a place to stay with a loving family. My heterosexual parents treated me terribly. I would have been happier with homosexual parents if they had been good people, and most are. My husband too had neglectful parents. The gender of the parents don't matter. What matters is the love, between the parents and the children. Love is all that matters.