i know im straight but i just really enjoy wearing womans clothing. my parents dont understand and i have no female friend who i can try on her stuff. im a bit shy about it cause people just dont understand. any advice? any way i can vent this passion?
2006-11-10 04:40:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
i actually do live in NYC and i have went to a store with a friend (girl) but chickened out the last minute. i do wear girls jeans normally but i so badly wanna try heels even though all i hear is girls complain about them. i just like trying new things i guess.
2006-11-10 11:40:02 · update #1
A lot of this depends on where you live. If you live in a large city, you can shop anonymously for yourself, and try on the clothing in the privacy of your home. Don't cut the tags off, and keep the receipts until you have tried everything on and made a final decison as to whether or not you want to keep the items. If not, simply return them to the store for a refund or a credit (depending on their policy). If anyone asks, simply tell them that the woman you bought the things for decided she didn't want/like/need them.
You can wear certain garments under your regular clothes, like lingerie or other un-bulky things, still be discreet, and maybe this will be enough of a "venting" for you. If not, you may have to seek out others who share your passion, online, for further advice.
Most people ignorantly assume that transvestites are homosexual. This, as you know, is not true. Nevertheless, especially if you live in a small town, it will be important for you to remain as discreet as possible, for the sake of your family and your own peace. Sorry to say, but, this lifestyle choice is not widely accepted. Sorrier to say, there is little you can do to make your family "understand". Many families - in fact, MOST families - are, unfortunately, more concerned with things like "what will the neighbors say?" than the happiness of their own family member (when it comes to rather unconventional lifestyle choices). You will just have to accept this.
I'm not a cross-dresser, but I have had a friend who was, and it broke my heart to see him so conflicted. If you find that this lifestyle choice is one that is extremely important to you for your core happiness, you may need to consider moving to a larger, more accepting city, where most people have a "live-and-let-live" attitude. Places like NYC, where I'm from, are extremely accepting and tolerant of just about anything. As long as you're not doing anything criminal, other people will not be in your face about how you choose to live your life.
I wish you luck. My lifelong motto is, "To thine own self be true".
2006-11-10 04:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by happy heathen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't buy the straight bull **** you just wrote. If you are straight then why don't you let the women in your life be just women and you be just a man? If you like to change roles then obviously you have not explored your sexuality. There are guys that don't accept their sexuality or even know that they are gay until late into their midlife. So maybe a therapist can help you. I do not also understand why you would ask ladies on this forum because you are probably a lesbian disguised as a guy because a normal woman is attracted to a normal man. I wish you could be treated because you may turn out to be a handsome man that someone could do with as a husband. But for now, I would run if I saw you!
2016-05-22 02:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assure you there are many other people who feel this way. You sound like you're a bit young, so perhaps you should go to a store where they have both men and womens clothes in the same store, with private dressing rooms (where they don't look at the number of clothes properly), and select like 5 male items and put between them like 1 female item of clothing, and try it on (but don't try and buy it). And if you get caught trying to try it on, say that you picked it up by mistake. Also, you can buy stuff online, and have it shipped to your house. (if you can't use a credit card, buy an American Express gift card and use that) Although it would be sort of akward if your parents opened the box. And I wouldn't try on your mother's clothing, it would be akward if she found you using it.
good luck
2006-11-10 04:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common so you are not alone. Why not go into a womans shop and buy some stuff of your own. Act confident and the assistant will only assume they are for your girlfriend. If you don't feel comfortable going into a shop you can buy lots of cool stuff on eBay ... but perhaps check out some stuff in shops first so you know what size to get. You don't need thearapy and wearing womens clothes does not make you gay. Do whatever makes you happy.
2006-11-10 04:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read that plenty of cross dressers are heterosexual. Maybe you can find a girl to shop with you or for you, but don't ask to try on their clothes. That's just yucky. Or you could shop online. Just get a checking account with a debit card. Google crossdressing groups in your area and see what comes up.
2006-11-10 04:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i heard that the English(England) guys do that all the time you can move there or just get a really cool Girl Friend and ask her to let you try one her stuff if shes cool enough to let you try on her stuff
2006-11-10 04:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kristina S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just tell them ur differint and u like wearing womens cloths but u r still straight!!! ur a tomgirl
2006-11-10 04:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love guys who wear women's jeans and baby doll t-shirts.
2006-11-10 04:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by yeppers`peppers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's acceptable
2006-11-10 06:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SEEK THERAPY......THEY MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP YOU UNDETRSATND WHY YOU LIKE THAT!!!!!
2006-11-10 04:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋